is that gal in a single parent situation? bcos i dun see the dad
in the pic.
i think the mum (parents) can advise but not to the extend of
disallowing the relationship totally. she can advise that they
still meet up, perhaps at home where she is around to supervise if
she wants to make sure no 'harm' can come to her daughter etc. but
to disallow them to meet up at all is a total disaster. both your
friend and his GF might do something stupid under long term of
suppression. (thinking too much?)
the other thing the gal should do is to at least defend why they
are together in the first place. if the mum don't hear of how much
she (the daughter) loves him or cares, then how in the world will
the mum knows and even try to understand? perhaps, the mum is super
protective of the daughter but it is still between the 2 of them
(BGF). in short, the gal should stand up to what she believes is
right and if she really loves the person, she will at least try to
defend this love? yes? (this is part n parcel of growing up)
the guy on the other hand should be less quarrelsome. don't pick on
a fight always. aim to have peace and resolve matters quietly,
communicate at all levels. not easy but at least try.
apologising to the mum is good gesture but gaining trust is about
taking time to understand what went wrong and improve in it. don't
make the same mistakes...new ones are alright (we ain't perfect
beings yet). learn from his mistakes and move on. be
gracious.
apologising to his GF helps too.
