Any advice?

last SG · 2006-02-28T20:26:54+00:00

wonderfully crafted and well said. what have u gotta lose anyway? live life with no regrets. let it go, u may regret, start a r/s now, even if it fails, u wi...

Wulus SG

I know a girl for 6 month...

always hang out together, people thought we are an item...She is single so do i...

We always call each other out have fun together, sharing the same thoughts, same hobbies...

There are some hinting and flirting in our conversation but i know very well if i ask her to be my gf the answer is yes...

Just got myself a diploma but getting a low pay job, she is still in poly...
I am not ready...
I willing to wait for her and i dun mind remain single....Just to focus on my career first...
Both are too young...
I love the friendship more than getting into a relationship...

She can't wait...what should i do?

Wulus SG

Let her go?

M©+square SG

Tell me more about the part where you say she can't wait.

why do you say that?

Cheers

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dragg SG

what does cant wait means?

continue to go out as friends...

Wulus SG

Many times she say she always being left on the shelf no 1 want her....

there are other guys that is chasing her and i would tell her the guys not wroth her love etc etc....

I do not want to get into a relationship just for dating, i only believe in getting into a relationship so both can get married...

I did tell her what i want and what i seek when i am in a relationship, both must be mature etc etc...

She would Sad

Is my thinking old fashion?Another part of me is I also don't wish to let go of her.....

I never say to her " trust me, wait for me. wait until i am stable...." because it's not fair to her

shrekho SG

Take first, try it out.

If you don't try, you will never know!
Who knows what can be churned out? Maybe she really your lucky star then you ho seh liao!

Don't like/ cannot make it then just refund lor...

Wulus SG

So meaning i just give her the good news?

She is still studying.....Are you sure?

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Try lah.

Wulus SG

In my heart, the answer is clear

If she can wait, she is wroth it

If she can't wait means she not wroth my love...

I think i let her go, i continue being her best friend. Will not stop her from going out with the guys..

M©+square SG

Cool good one

Devil1976 SG

Nice if you think of marriage and to provide for her and everything lah... But hor... How many relationships you had before huh...?

If you never even start up a relationship with her, how you'll know if things would work out ley...?

It's like trying to paint a house without even building it in the 1st place man...

Wulus SG

Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most

Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with....

M©+square SG

You can never predict probability...because people change.

It is a good thing if it work out. It is an experience if it didn't.

If you've decided on the path you're going to walk. Then focus and walk on.
Otherwise, if anything goes wrong...you'll have excuse that the person have affected you. Which is unfair to her.

Cheers

darknessfall SG

have you wonder if you missed this boat, the next boat might not come so early or may not even come?

y not board the boat and see how far you can row..who knows, you n her may last forever....if u dun try, u will not know. if you try, you may know.

go go go!!

ILPSY SG

You said that you want the friendship more than a relationship. So, do you love her as a lover will?

Or do you not want her to be attached to another guy coz you may lose the only "connection" that you can't feel with other ppl? but you dun love her at all?

Hmm...

BrUtUs SG

get together with her first, but let her know things will go slow now bcos u still need to work for career... if she really like u she'll understand...

FBI SG

U can jus date her and then earn some money for your marriage after that.

If she really loves she can wait..

If u continue on your career first then u have a 50 percent chance of losing to other guys.

If u love the friendship then getting into a relationship.. so wats bothering u now?

drx SG

pats pats i know is tough to go thru a broken relationship.
I myself have thru a few and went through what you have been going through.
My advice is this let go of your hurt in the past or you will never find true happiness . You have being hurt before i understand and is your heart that is scare to be hurt again but in life you must learn how to let go.

I believe she is a nice girl and she is willingly to be the one with you. Give her a chance to let her into your heart to repair that hurt that you suffer before.
I know is tough for her but thru hard work and true love i believe she can do it.

rainee SG

Someone told me this...

"I will not pursue a relationship with a girl whom I cannot imagine a future with. If I get into a r/s with someone, I would have to be able to imagine myself living forever with her, until both of us are old."

I was thinking...how can you be sure that your imagination is correct? How can you base what is going to happen in the future on your imagination? Nobody can predict what is going to happen...you can never tell whether she is the one for you by trying to predict what is going to happen next, the only way to tell is to actually try it out in real life.

So I dunno if this reason of yours is valid. Though it does sound very much like what one of my frens was thinking when he told me why he was reluctant to get involved with a girl whom he likes and also cares a lot for him.

The only valid reason is if you do not have any feeling for her. If you cannot see yourself being more than friends with her at the current moment, then don't complicate things just by becoming her bf because you feel "pressurized" by her insistence. Love cannot be forced.

It has to come naturally. But don't let your imagination that you think you won't last long with her prevents you from trying it out Wink

choco B SG

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