Originally posted by Yunhaier:
CloUdiSm speaks about Morning Foundation;
referring to relationship born on weak 'materials' prepared
hastily. The relationship is extremely raw and vulnerable, even to
a scratch and is usually caused by Uranus transiting effect.
I recommend setting your pace slower, but not abandoning the
initial drive completely because chances are, it will have adverse
effect if you jam brake. In simple, don't pause and give her all
the freewill and space, instead give allowance, but maintain your
stand. In reality, this 'mistake' is pretty fatal because even if
you succeeded in getting her, negative unseen effect will spill
over into your BGR. You don't really experience this negativity
head-on, rather, it is likely be a highest common factor that give
rise to later conflicts and issues.
Go with the plan; meet up at your friend's house (and especially
watch your body language: Don't be so eager - don't gaze, but
maintain good friendship contact. Care physical distance - don't
avoid, yet don't hang too close). Plan what you want to say to her.
Here are some pointers to take note:
I) Don't get too emotional. Wild emotions are like untamed
stallions - they are dangerous. Judging you from my perspective,
you are probably someone who can't control emotions well, so don't
get into a situation where you get all emotional and loses your
position. You must control your stance properly if you hope to
achieve anything.
[b]Appear professional
even if you know nothing.
II) Less of 'Me' and more of 'You' type of communication. Yes, I
know you love her, etc - but it's all self absorbed. You must
devise a way to allow her (even if it is only an illusion) to think
that she has some freewill in making decisions and that the choice
she make (which is you) is a good decision BECAUSE you made her
feel that it it will be.
Basically, your
'hard selling' must succeed in persuading
her.
III) State timing to counter indecisiveness. If you sense that she
is backing out with confusion, put time into the picture. (E.g.
Yes, we understand that things are getting too fast, we shall give
ourselves another 30 days to decide).
Knowing how to
sell is useless if you don't know how to close the
deal. 
Cheers [/b]
aunty yun the best sia. lol. give sooooo indepth stuff. i have a
hard time understanding. but if it is so easy to understand, how
useful can it get? haha. thanks. but the less of me and more of you
type of communication...very hard. i cant get her to talk more
about herself.
and decisions, so far when we go out, most of the decisions are
made by her.
