Dear AnimalArmy,
I have a question for you: Why are you so silly? It's obvious to an
outsider that she doesn't treasure you, No matter how she claims
that you can be the best bf.
Despite the many setbacks, & how you claim that you're the
victim, do you honestly think it's wise to try & win her back
from the other guy? What are the risks that she will stray again?
You KNEW that she'd strayed once, & there would've been a
possibility that she would stray again. You'd accepted her back
even though you knew the risks. Granted, some people only do that
once, but now, she cheated on you a 2nd time. And you still want to
win her back? How can you claim to be a victim this time? You'll be
going into this with your eyes wide open.
If you really DO win her back, then you may hafta psycho yourself
into accepting her cheating ways, & Not make it an issue, since
you already KNOW that she has a tendency to cheat.
However, why hurt yourself time & again? It's quite emotionally
masochistic to do so. It's better to take the time to let go &
let your heart heal. Afterall, if you were right for her, she
wouldn't have needed to cheat on you, more than once.
Remember the wise saying (I can't remember the exact words
anymore), but let's adapt it to your situation. Cheat on me once,
shame on you. Cheat on me twice, shame on ME. Now, if you really
wanna go into this a third time, there may need to be a harsher
continuation of this proverb, Cheat on me thrice, & I'm a
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filled in if you've made that mistake.
FeowFeow
Originally posted by AnimalArmy:
Hi peeps,
Seriously need everyone's help? Anyone actually patches back with
his ex-gf before? I haf bottle my problems for months. I cannot
take it anymore. Pls help.
[b]My
Story
The relationship was like a fairy tale initially. But then,
neglection, misunderstanding and disagreements set in...
Broke off twice. An on both occasions, third party was
involved.
1st occasion, she went steady with another guy without letting me
noe. I thought the breakup was just as simple as that but until my
friend told me that she is in fact seeing another guy even before
we broke up. However, I accepted her again.
2nd occasion, happens 6 mths later, this time she was close with
another guy and went out with him behind my back. However, I tried
to accept her back but she told me the feelings are really gone for
good.
Question 1: I cannot believe that if u (as in her) claim to love
someone so dearly, how can u hold someone's hand and become a
2-timer? Are her words too cheap to believe?
Question 2: I did all I can when we patched back the first time
round. Sincerity and hard work does not help to save the
relationship. I dunno what else I can do to save the
relationship?
Question 3: My love for her is genuinue and I can accept her flaws
and even accept the fact that she 2 time me. I dunno what she wants
from me? Even though she claims I can be the best boyfriend?
Question 4: How can I save this relationship cos I did hate her
after the 2nd occasion and pester her non-stop by calling her and
waiting for her to come home. End up we quarrelled and at some
time, it was pretty ugly. I regretted my actions and now she does
not even want to talk to me. What can I do? I cannot be blamed for
what I did cos I am the victim...
Question 5: She grew from strength to strength and yet I am living
in a pathetic world of my own. I am lost, very lost. What can I
do?
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