Originally posted by AnimalArmy:
Hi peeps,
Seriously need everyone's help? Anyone actually patches back with
his ex-gf before? I haf bottle my problems for months. I cannot
take it anymore. Pls help.
[b]My
Story
The relationship was like a fairy tale initially. But then,
neglection, misunderstanding and disagreements set in...
Broke off twice. An on both occasions, third party was
involved.
1st occasion, she went steady with another guy without letting me
noe. I thought the breakup was just as simple as that but until my
friend told me that she is in fact seeing another guy even before
we broke up. However, I accepted her again.
2nd occasion, happens 6 mths later, this time she was close with
another guy and went out with him behind my back. However, I tried
to accept her back but she told me the feelings are really gone for
good.
Question 1: I cannot believe that if u (as in her) claim to love
someone so dearly, how can u hold someone's hand and become a
2-timer? Are her words too cheap to believe?
Question 2: I did all I can when we patched back the first time
round. Sincerity and hard work does not help to save the
relationship. I dunno what else I can do to save the
relationship?
Question 3: My love for her is genuinue and I can accept her flaws
and even accept the fact that she 2 time me. I dunno what she wants
from me? Even though she claims I can be the best boyfriend?
Question 4: How can I save this relationship cos I did hate her
after the 2nd occasion and pester her non-stop by calling her and
waiting for her to come home. End up we quarrelled and at some
time, it was pretty ugly. I regretted my actions and now she does
not even want to talk to me. What can I do? I cannot be blamed for
what I did cos I am the victim...
Question 5: She grew from strength to strength and yet I am living
in a pathetic world of my own. I am lost, very lost. What can I
do?
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Dear AnimalArmy,
After reading your post it is obvious that she has a major problem
staying faithful in the relationship that both of u shared. My
question to u is why would you still want her back ? So that she
can hurt u again for the 3rd time ??
Forgive me for being straight-forward, but have you ever thought of
this, what if the 2 of you were to be married and she did the same
thing ?? Imagine what that will do to you mentally ?? therefore it
is best to move on while you can ..... you deserve someone much
better.
these are jus my thoughts, what to do is up to you. Advise can be
given by anyone, but it is you and you alone that makes all the
choices in life.
No one can force you into doing something that you do not wish to
do.
All the Best to u !! 
