How would you handle this situation ?? HELP ME !!

MiX Metal SG

this has been bugging me for months.....

My Sis and my mum has started a business together a few months ago ..... the thing is, they are both short temper and will always have conflicts on how the business should be run.

normally that would not be a bad thing, but because both are unwilling to compromise or even try out other suggestion...... that leads to them shouting at each other and passing harsh remarks hurting each other's feelings and I'll always be put in the middle of them playing the peace maker's roll ......

this is draining me metally ..... i dun wan to take sides as no matter which side i choose or wat i say ..... the other party will feel that i am ganging up with the other against her ...... I'm going into a NERVOUS BREAKDOWN !!! its affecting my work .....

Advise needed !!! Sad Sad

sinicker SG

tell them if want to do business together, work together.

dragg SG

you dont get involved.

or how about your father?

MiX Metal SG

Problem is that they will always start complaining everything to me, and after that, they will ask me to try and take to the other ..... so how do I not get involved when one's my mum and the others my sis ???

as for my father, he's a man of few words .... don't really like to speak much so ...... Sad

sinicker SG

u say u dun wanna get involved already coz' a few days l8r, it's gonna happen again anyway.

OasisBlue SG

Hmm mb u should try to tell them.. “hey its a business…our business… either we strive or we go all de way down…if we dun cooperate, we cant strive, we cant earn $$..u wan us to earn rite…den throw all our ideas and make a perfect change…” erm dis is just wad i will say if i were u =X but if it dun work pls dun blame me..i still studying..in sec sch haha…just trying to help…=)

nuchio SG

get them to sit down and work on, compromise and agree on a business terms, conditions etc.

after that, they are to follow the plan accordingly.

constantly remind them that if they want to succeed in the business that they started, they must learn to work with each other or end it all.

Ito_^ SG

learn from your father.

ghimpheng SG

hire a expert to guide them instead…......

hisoka SG

me hor i will just shut up with them about the topic let them settle themselves its their business afterall. in fact i might even go as far as to tell them straight its their problem dun drag me in, if cannot settle break up businesss

MiX Metal SG

first of all i am not working wif them, i'm working for another company ...... and i know that the only solution is to leave them be ...... but it is getting to a point whereby it is damaging the mother daughter r/s ..... I'm part of the family, how can I stand aside and let it carry on ?????

I simply can't do that ...... I need to find a solution that will not hurt either one of them but at my current state of mind plus work preasure ...... my mind is at a total blank !!!!!! Crying or Very sad

I'm so [email protected]# stress out right now ...............

curiousOrange SG

What to tell your sister when mum's not around:

"I like your ideas actually. "

"If I'm in your situation, my mind will tell me to try out those ideas...but my heart will tell me otherwise"

"She's our mum afterall."

"She's already (insert age). I want her to spend her time enjoying her life and I want her to be happy...I sure if you think about it calmly. You will feel that way too...there's only one mum."

"So try to compromise a bit and let her have her way sometimes...her way is not all bad!"

What to tell your mum when sister's not around:

"I like your ideas actually." (hmmm....sounds familiar right?! LOL!)

"She's a tad stubborn but she has a lot of creative ideas...she needs someone with more experience to guide her along."

"In fact, I talked to her when you are not around...she's just disappointed with herself that her ideas fail to meet up with your expectations.

"But she's your daughter...I'm sure you understand her better than anyone else...

"You have to compromise a bit and let her have her way sometimes...but hey, her way is not that bad afterall!"

Work on their emotional side.

And the best part?

No one will blame you for telling some white lies in this case...they will probably see where you are coming from.

So give it a try.

Take care!
Wink

eCloud SG

learn from ur father then Laughing

curiousOrange SG

Ya lor...maybe he's got a secret manual...hidden under his pillow.

"THE HOLY TRUTH ON HOW TO DEAL WITH STUBBORN WIFE AND DAUGHTER"

Only 1 page...he gave up after writing this:

Rule no. 1 :
Siam if possible.

StarPuppy SG

Laughing

Devil1976 SG

Laughing

Devil1976 SG

Idea Carry on only if they can afford to. The way they're working at, it'll probably work out to be more than just a 'lose lose' situation, but a 'lose lose lose' one where they'll lost more than the $ they've invested but also the mother-daughter relationship... And the thought of $ shouldn't really be buying away their kinship...

Devil1976 SG

OPENLY in front of the TWO of them ANNOUNCE that you are a NEUTRAL STAND Exclamation

gerrykoh SG

Tell them if they can’t agree, then one of them buy the other out.

MiX Metal SG

Originally posted by curiousOrange:

[b]What to tell your sister when mum's not around:

"I like your ideas actually. "

"If I'm in your situation, my mind will tell me to try out those ideas...but my heart will tell me otherwise"

"She's our mum afterall."

"She's already (insert age). I want her to spend her time enjoying her life and I want her to be happy...I sure if you think about it calmly. You will feel that way too...there's only one mum."

"So try to compromise a bit and let her have her way sometimes...her way is not all bad!"

What to tell your mum when sister's not around:

"I like your ideas actually." (hmmm....sounds familiar right?! LOL!)

"She's a tad stubborn but she has a lot of creative ideas...she needs someone with more experience to guide her along."

"In fact, I talked to her when you are not around...she's just disappointed with herself that her ideas fail to meet up with your expectations.

"But she's your daughter...I'm sure you understand her better than anyone else...

"You have to compromise a bit and let her have her way sometimes...but hey, her way is not that bad afterall!"

Work on their emotional side.

And the best part?

No one will blame you for telling some white lies in this case...they will probably see where you are coming from.

So give it a try.

Take care!
Wink [/b]

I've tried that ....... back fired on me.....