I think this is one of the biggest misconceptions people have.
If u are gay, u can sincerely "don't want to be gay" but at the end
of the day u know what? U can try to be straight but u will just be
living a lie. U're not who u are. The most important thing in life
is always to be true to yourself, to who u are inside. If u're gay,
the worst thing u could choose to do is to "try" and be straight.
That is called denial, and its not only potentially psychologically
harmful to one's well-being, it also opens up lots of scenarios for
potential future hurt.
For eg:
a gay guy marries a woman in an effort to convince himself he is
"straight". Say 5 years down the road, he has a kid. He likes the
woman he is married to, but he doesn't love her. And then he meets
a guy he really loves, and start a extra-marital affair with him.
Think how devistating it will be for the wife to find out her
husband has been closet gay all along. How bad it will be for the
children. Especially since there is less incentive for him to stay
faithful to her, since he dosen't like woman. All that hurt and
pain not only for him, but for his wife, his children, his family,
his wife's family, everybody. How cheap he feels everynight when he
has to sleep with her in an attempt to be straight, the self
loathing he ends up feeling for himself, hating himself for being
"not normal", the disgust that floods inside him everytime he has
sex with his wife just to try to convince himself he is "straight".
And in the end he strays just because nobody can hide who they are
forever. U can lie to yourself but the truth always comes out. And
if u've been trying to hide it, it will only cause more damage when
it finally sees the light of the day.
So u see, this is how denial can ruin lives, not just your own, but
whoever u choose to cast in your own little "straight family" act.
My advice is, we have enough of this sort of tragedy and sorrow in
the world. And we don't need children from this sort of homes
coming out hating gay people and spreading bigotry. So be wise,
accept yourself for who u are, and don't listen to the other bigots
if they try to tell u its "not normal" to be gay or that its a
"disease" to be gay. If u ask me, bigotry is a much bigger social
disease than being gay will every be. They're the ones who need to
speak to counsellors.
