I'm being bullied by my bf's sis and her colleague.
1st incident:
My bf has a company doing face painting. He bought the face
painting stuffs worth a few thousand dollars and handed over to his
sis recently. So now his sis is the so called "boss" after paying a
small amount for topping up the paints. His sister usually does
face painting with her colleague Adeline. However, as these 2
people cannot give total commitment to this part time job, my bf
has asked another lady Shannon and I to help out
occasionally.
There was once (about 1 to 2mths back) Adeline and I went for face
painting together. Nothing much happened on that day. Shortly after
that, my bf had another face painting assignment and my bf told me
that Adeline has requested not to work with me and prefer to work
with Shannon. Reason given: There is no common interest, nothing to
talk, and I looked stern. I was so angry after hearing this. Im
born with a face that looks stern when I do not smile or laugh.
Its not my fault. But Im a kind and friendly person to those who
know me. I agree that there is no common interest as there is an
age gap of around 10 years between us, however this does not gives
her the right to choose her face painting partner. Sometimes I even
helped my bfs sister and her to wash the brushes when I was not
even doing face painting and also offered them advises on how to
handle crowd and end the face painting queue without having to over
extend the time. Yet, this is the kind of treatment and feedback I
got back from them.
2nd incident:
Recently I received calls from my bf and his sis asking whether I
took their apron used for face painting. My bfs sis told me that
Adeline said during the last time I worked with Adeline, Adeline
passed me a red apron and I wore it without returning it to her.
However, I remembered clearly that I was wearing my own yellow
apron and Adeline did not even pass any red apron to me, less alone
wearing it.
My bf sis called me back shortly to inform that her maid has found
it and she apologized for that. She also said that Adeline cannot
remember clearly. But dont you think that I would be made a
scapegoat if the apron cannot be found? If Adeline cannot remember
the incident clearly, she should just admit that she cannot
remember and should not just made up stories and pushed the blame
to me. I am already very pissed off with Adeline after these 2
incidents.
Below are my sms conversation with my bfs sister (no quarrel on
the phone):
His sister (copied from her sms): all, its a misunderstanding. I
hv clarified with all parties. Apron at my house. My apologies!
Myself: (recall from memory) Dun worry, since this is a
misunderstanding, I wun take it to heart. But please ask her to
remember clearly next time rather than just make
assumptions.
Myself: (recall from memory) I think my tone was a bit hash.
Sorry.
His sister (copied from her sms): No worry. I wont take it 2
heart. Guess y u r uptight with adel is bcos of her comment abt u.
B4 u hear anthing frm my bro, pls check with me. In fact, she
didnt say anything bad except tt there is no common interest btwn
2 of u n u look stern. I do agree tts a frank opinion! Xxx(my bfs
name) sometime can blow thing out of proportion so better listen 2
both parties b4 drawing cclusion. I m not siding her but I 1 2
clear e air n trust I can hv a supportive n cordial fp group 2
support xxxs business and extra income 4 us, ladies!
Myself (copied from my sms): To be frank, I dislike her after
these 2 incidents. 1st, she has no right to choose her working
partner unless my attitude really sucks. 2nd she should just say
that she forgets where the apron is and not saying that I took it
and even wear it when its not e truth. If the apron is not found,
Ill be a scapegoat for nothing. No matter what, my impression of
her will never change and I dun wish to work with such person ever
again.
His sister (copied from her sms): Tts fine, if u choose 2 harbour
such hatred. I thot u r an easy going n magnanimous lady. Sprised
n disaptd 2 know that u r an unforgiving person Puzzled y u hate
her when I alrdy explnd at length th she didnt speak bad abt u.
She also apolgd 2 me on her fuzzy brain. Fyi, she didnt choose her
fp partner. I m e 1 who asked my bro 2 swop so does that mean u
hated me? In life, 1 shd learn 2 4give not bear grudges. Thats all
I can add.
Dont you think his sisters sis seems to be very offensive towards
me when I told her that I dislike Adeline? Bear in mind that I did
not even make any negative remarks on my bfs sister.
It is Adeline who created trouble for me and his sister sent me
such sms when I voiced out the fact that I dislike Adeline. By the
way, Adeline did not even apologise to me and his sister sent such
offensive remarks without even considering the possibility that I
may be her future sister in law. Am I in the wrong to be angry with
the both of them?
Now, I am being seen as an unforgiving person in the eyes of my bf
and his family. This is simply too unfair to me. Dont you think
Im being bullied?
Sorry for the long story, I hope you readers can comment on who is
in the wrong. If majority think that Im in the wrong, then fine
Ill accept it.
