Should I... ?

last SG · 2005-12-26T23:17:22+00:00

A DECADE mind if you can tell he lyk u since you how old?Anyway jus give him a cahnce lo....see how it goes 1st...

stupid_galz1987 SG

There's this guy, he already liked me for a decade already. He never confessed to me, until late last year around this time. He hijacked my hp number, I don't really blame him for that though, cause there's really no chance for us to meet up at all.

Okay, so on and off the entire year, he been asking me out... few months once but I keep rejecting him... starting that time I totally didn't replied, but he kept coming back, then I started replying gave all kinds of excusing... he's very scare of me... he's very afraid of making me angry he keeps apologizing to me for nothing...

Then this few weeks, after my exams, he kept asking me out more often, I guess he couldn't take it anymore... Then he confessed everything to me... all the stupid things he did just to be able to see me more... I told him not to waste his time but he said its okay for him to be hurt, he just wants to wait for me his whole life... he promised everything to me... even his future...

Then yesterday, he told me tomorrow he'll waited for me at a place till I come because he knows if he asked I'll always be busy and said if I didn't turn up he'll wait again another day, I didn't reply... But he's kinda right I am cruel, I never did gave him any chance not even once... I haven't really seen him for 2 whole years...

I don't know... we never talked much b4 in sch... and I have neutral impression of him only... but he's able to make such promises to me... and I do know he'll really wait.... after all its been a decade... he said he'll never go away even if I am attached... I don't know what I am feeling right now...

What should I do? Should I go?

alexkusu SG

a decade Shocked

well, sometimes gals fall in love with persistant guys. Who knows, u cud be one

kopiosatu SG

just go on a date la, won’t die what

anhydrouscoppersulphate SG

u born in 1987 then that means u around 17 or 18 then that meanns he like you since 7 or 8 which is pri 2 or pri 3. lame.

laosu SG

Just a date..nothing to lose...who knows you might just fall in love with him afterall. You may not like him in the past, but that's a decade ago and people do change. Give yourself and him a chance. It'll just be a meet up and you decide which path to go from there.

Sekundes SG

If u want him to give up, just make him satisfied.
No just with a no reason no.

Ray87 SG

i feel the opposite. dont give him false hopes.

Patrik SG

He think he Yang Guo ar?

BrUtUs SG

some guys are jz plain loyal to the gal they interest in... if u know his friends, ask them to help u to pass the message to him since your word already failed... the only way is to let him see that theres way more better gals in the whole than u and theres no chance u are gonna like him like that...

drx SG

Congras seems like you are a very attractive person hehe Wink just kidding.
Seems that this guy is crazy about you and is willing to do anything for you.
My suggestion is not to meet him you will never know what crazy things he will do to you.

yuko-ogura SG

the ultimate qn is..

wad's ur impression of him?

if it is good,why not give him a chance?

no harm going on a date too.

when u discover that he's not the type ur looking for even after a few dates..

tell him exactly that..

it's never late too.

juz kindly request that u prefer to stay as ordinary frens wif him.

ask him to respect your decision.

he'll feel pain within indeed.

but the temporary pain is necessary.

think of it this way.

it's better than the long-term misery brought to the both of you later.

one cannot force to love.

good luck.

thousandisland SG

wow yuko-ogura sounds like a love guru. hail yuko-ogura[/b]

sinicker SG

A DECADE??!

StarPuppy SG

why not?

some guys i know...very faithful...super faithful

yuko-ogura SG

but if stupid_gal_1987 is 18 yrs old this yr..a decade would mean that the guy had been in love wif her since primary 2.

i understand that true love prevails..but isn' this a tad too odd? Rolling Eyes

StarPuppy SG

why not?

either that guy is really in love with her or hes mindset is still childish...

rainee SG

if you do not like him, then just tell him straight away…dun keep him waiting and give him false hopes anymore…not good to lead a guy on if you have no intention to be with him.

curiousOrange SG

stupid_galz1987

When we are courting a girl, we are like salesmen trying to describe to you our best features that can attract you.

A mature salesman display what he has to offer you...humour, wit, confidence, charm, charisma or looks and he will let you decide for yourself.

This cheeky guy on the other hand is using the most despicable method of trying to make you guilty enough to go out with him (remember how he told you you are cruel and how he will wait until you appear etc).

I feel sorry for him as well, he must be a salesman who has extremely low confidence to resort to a desperate method like that.

But it doesn't change the fact that he's a poor salesman...you are simply not interested!

He does display some sincerity. But sincerity is hardly the feature that can make you attracted to him!

You are not attracted years ago, what makes you think you will be attracted now?

Think about it. If what I said is true, then don't go. The best way to help him is not to give him any false hope.

Yunhaier SG

Nobody except yourself can coerce you to Love someone you have no interest for... similarly, nobody except yourself can force you to accept a date you have no interest in.

Chances are, if you have been emotionally and psychologically refusing him, a date wouldn't do much of a difference.

A decade? He is probably lionizing the affection to stimulate a dramatic effect.

If he termed this as cruelty in love... he probably has so much more to learn about REAL cruelty in love than this delusional unreciprocated love. In reality, who hasn't tasted such experience before? (For those who didn't, there are other lessons in store for you)

Some people talked about giving him a chance, perhaps it is for his sincerity. But when you looked beyond, such behavior actually... indirectly... mimic their personality, which is in fact, saying much about himself. Think a little further; imagine a relationship with him... what kind of messages are coming into your mind now?

Listen to your womanly instinct - it doesn't scream a warning for no valid reason.

You can know ALOT about someone through Love. All is clear, nude and visible under the light scope of Love. The inferior perform the chase with the inferior's mindset and attitude; the player perform the chase with the player's mindset and attitude; the confident perform the chase with the confident's mindset and attitude... and the list goes on. This is the work of the Sixth Law of Love - Self Love before Love. Idea

Cheers

binZ SG

words are easy to say de.. feelings are hard to guess~

half the time.. i say words which i dun really mean it.. (good and bad stuff lah)

i tell most girls i know tat i miss u after a few days nv tok to her siah~ Crying or Very sad at the same time i can be very flirty with my words~ >.< Confused Embarassed

yet.. i nv have a gf before~ which make a lot of people unbelieving and wary of me nia~ Sad

i can safely tell u that few people got the patience to really wait for anyone for 10 yrs de..

I suggest that you can try arriving 2 hours late after the time of the meeting? if he is still there, i think.. he might really like u.

Whether u like him or not is a different issue nia.. but at least u know his true feelings? Wink