Is there something wrong with me?

faizal82 SG

I seem to like only chinese gals due to the fact that I had 2 crushes on my 2 chinese sec sch mates last time. The 1st didnt last long but the 2nd one, I`m still thinking abt her till this very day. Hmm, I didn`t have any crushes on any Malay gals.. (I`m Malay as u can tell from my nick)...why? why?

To me, I just feel attracted by their looks, charm and character. Am I being choosy? Is tat why I`m still single? I went out with a lot of Malay gals b4 but never felt the same way like I did with chinese gals. Then again, there`s also other future factors to consider even if I`m hitched to a chinese gal, like convert to Islam etc...

Sigh..really am confused... Sad

papergirl SG

Everyone got their preferences.. why worry ?

Ito_^ SG

eh got a opposite classmate oso like you.

hyperactivechatterbox SG

If you are wierd, then I am too… I had a crush on this handsome Indian guy who was my friend’s elder bro. Unfortunately, he had a girlfriend. There was this other crush I had on a malaysian…

oldbreadstinks SG

my cousin's chinese and her boyfriend's malay, no big deal Confused

FadeToBlack SG

race, religion not a big deal..

most important is you love each other. Wink

bravo82 SG

hmmm.. was the bro's gf chinese? sounds familiar

nullifi3d SG

No worries, i have a similar case to yours. Like they say, the grass is always greener on the other side. Hahahaha

MiX Metal SG

you sound normal to me .

coffeeortea SG

hmm.. muslims cannot change from islam to something else? sorry im not very good with religion

gUms SG

DONT worry dude , there aint noting wrong with u , like someone just said , different ppl have different preference ...
some like apple
some like orange
race nor religion is not a barrier (sOmEtImES yEs , but usually de problem comes from de parents)
like me im iNdiAn (hindustani) , my mother only wans me to marry hindustani girls , not even other dialets in Indian like tamil , is not allowed , but who cares , i have had , chinese muslim , malay , chinese girlfriend , but the funny thing is i nv ever had an indian girlfriend , i just dont know why , but i dont like indian girls ... im crazy as u , cos i dont like my own kind of girls ..

anyway dont worry , if u like a girl from a different race just go ahead ...

i have a chinese friend who married a malay girl , but he didnt convert , they just had a civil marriage and a grand wedding dinner at a hotel ...
Is not always u have to convert , and its not always de girl has to convert to (in ur case if u wan to marry a chinese girl)

but to me , at de end of the day , de problems lies from ur parents .
anyway good luck in ur quest for chinese girls .. Cool

cyrusv SG

AGREE!!!! Razz

fudgester SG

Just like you, I'm also Malay, and just like you, I seem to have a preference for Chinese girls as well.

It's not because I discriminate against my own race, but I guess a lot has to do with the fact that I grew up knowing few Malay girls. There were only two Malay guys in my class in Sec 1-2. Heck, I was the only Malay in my class for 4 years from Sec 3 to JC 2.

I guess I also can't seem to reconcile myself with the 'culture' of the Mats and Minahs (you know.... low grades, hip-hop, motorbikes, loud voices and crass behaviour) which seem to be the norm nowadays with the Malay youth of these days. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about....

At the end of the day, just remember this: if you love the girl, just go for it. It doesn't matter if she's white, black, blue or green. If the two of you are meant to be together, then love finds a way.

hyperactivechatterbox SG

*applauses*

hyperactivechatterbox SG

Very Happy Not really...

hiphop2009 SG

quote:

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Just like you, I'm also Malay, and just like you, I seem to have a preference for Chinese girls as well.

It's not because I discriminate against my own race, but I guess a lot has to do with the fact that I grew up knowing few Malay girls. There were only two Malay guys in my class in Sec 1-2. Heck, I was the only Malay in my class for 4 years from Sec 3 to JC 2.

I guess I also can't seem to reconcile myself with the 'culture' of the Mats and Minahs (you know.... low grades, hip-hop, motorbikes, loud voices and crass behaviour) which seem to be the norm nowadays with the Malay youth of these days. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about....

At the end of the day, just remember this: if you love the girl, just go for it. It doesn't matter if she's white, black, blue or green. If the two of you are meant to be together, then love finds a way. >>

nice one Very Happy

anyway dude dun worry if u seems to like chinese gals onli.....yeap....love is blind i shld say?......

or u can try to widen ur circle of frenz?.....who noes u might even like a gal of other races besides chinese gals?.......

ultimately is ur choice gd luck to u!!...........

nullifi3d SG

Didn't know there were others like me... i'm so happie. Lolz.

All my life been mixing with other races only occasionally with a couple of malay guys and gals. Heck, i'm into chinese songs and movies.

M©+square SG

Yo Fudgester,

Read your post in Speaker's Corner. Great post. You're actually the first malay who spoke on politics. No offense man.

RESPECT brother!

Cheers

jeg SG

the bro's gf was malay..

fudgester SG

The sad thing is that I find a lot of Malays to be really insular and unwilling to mix with the other races. They'll come up with things like 'Uggh... they eat pork leh... how can you mix around with them?'

Heck, a lot of the 'Mats' I know of regard me as a so-called 'traitor' to the Malay community just because I seem to get along with my Chinese friends well. Back in JC my Malay friends once scolded me for hanging around with my classmates (who were all Chinese). They'll ask me, 'Why are you hanging out with the Chinese? Why aren't you hanging out with us? We are your own kind!'

At which I'd retort to them: 'I go for lectures with them. I do my tutorials with them. I take tests with them. I study with them, and I slack with them. They ARE my own kind! Why aren't YOU hanging out with your own kind?!?!?!'

I'm glad to say that shut them up for a while.

Back to the topic... to faizal82, there's nothing wrong with you in wanting to go after a girl who's of a different race than you are. After all, we all have four limbs, two eyes, one nose and one mouth. That makes us all equal. What you're doing is wrong only if you listen to and believe in the intolerant bigots who think that their race is the greatest.

Relationships aren't easy, and it'll be harder still with a relationship that crosses boundaries of race and religion. But as I said, if the two of you are meant to be together, then love finds its way.

And if you do want to know, I'm mixed Indian and Malay. That ought to tell you something.