hi all. i feel so betrayed. betrayed by my mum that is. i am the
breadwinner in my family. mum not working anymore. useless brother
is in NS. but apparently he never go to camp in like 2 months
already. more abt that later.
u see, i feel betrayed by my mum because i feel she never keeps her
promises to me. for instance, my brother who owes loansharks money,
defaulted on the payments. after so much of problems, i decided to
help him one last time on the condition that he move out of my
house and stop making me poor and always unhappy. my bro agreed to
move out and i settled his debt for him. now, he is back in the
house, let in by my mum. and it was my mum, who on 2 occassions,
agreed to ask him to move out. i hate my brother alot and nothing
can be done to salvage this relationship between us.
my bro is an a$$hole who only knows how to waste money. i got
cheated by his frenz of about 7k. he himself cheated me of another
7 to 8 hundred of dollars. whatever money or expensive gadgets that
i keep lying in the house will go missing.i assume they are taken
by him because time to time, he will have money to go out when he
never gets paid by army for defaulting. he does his own freelance
business but ironically he never does seem to haf money. my mum
just settled his loanshark amount of about 2.5k last dec. but then
this a$$hole went to borrow yet again late dec. he never learns his
lesson and always expect us to suffer/clean his shit for him. told
my mum many times not to help him but she always does.
thing is, i give about a third of my pay to my mum for bills and
upkeep of the house. but because of my idiotic bro, i always have
to fork out extra money. then i would have to spend very carefully.
at home, bro n me we are always fighting over the com, tv n stuff.
whenever his things go missing, he wants to search my room. if i
not at home, he breaks my door. my room has lots of things that are
expensive and i feel that he is aiming for them. i just paid his
loanshark bill and upon seeing him at home and having another
quarrel, i have decided to put an end to all these.
i am seriously thinking of moving out. but when i do that, i will
definitely not give my mum any money. i definitely cant afford to
give money and also pay for my rental etc. i am so undecided.
anyone knows of any solution? i hate to always have no money when i
am earning much more than all my friends who graduated with me. and
i am the only joker who gives so much to my family.
my mum also is very difficult to please. my gf n her cant get
along. probably never will. both hate each other to the core. when
my frenz come to my house, my mum says i never give her respect or
something like that. she just cannot see eye to eye with me. when i
tell her something, she tends to take it very seriously. she is a
very old fashioned person. and she always believe in fortune
telling, fate etc etc. i am so tired of her nonsense. especially
the one that she always shelters my a$$hole brother. my bro is 22
yr old going 23 this yr btw.
my gf advised me to move out which i am considering very seriously.
i wanna break free from this poverty line. i see my money always
going to help someone who does not appreciate me or learns from his
lessons. problem is, the house is under my name n my mum's. if i
move out, and bills start to pile up, i will end up paying rite? i
really need a solution to all this.
i feel that i am being taken advantage of just because i do
ANYTHING to help my mum.
