Kai Bu Liao Kou(Can't open mouth)

StarPuppy SG

hes lame, dun u know that

come AA the other day and creating havoc here

Rolling Eyes

browniebaobao SG

i know, juz a idiot who has got nothing better to do mah.

binZ SG

well bro.. if u still have feelings for the girl, go all out to woo her heart back.. it is nv too late.. to the girl.. Prove to her how much u love her and what u can do for her..

In the past.. she might be testing ur reaction when she ignore u suddenly.. .. and u probably dissapointed her greatly by having such a mild response... if u are the girl, u think u will want to be a guy like tat? undecisive?

to me.. whether my life is long or short doesnt matter.. its the quality of how u live it.. to try all the things i want to try, achieve what i want to achieve.. Even if i can achieve nothing.. i will die with no regrets knowing that i have put in my effort to try to attain all these.. .. Smile

cheers..
binZ~

wo_shi_wo SG

good luck.

ChairmanJay SG

M©+square SG

So you've got all the encouragement you need here.
Anything else stopping you? Mr. Green

Cheers

Ito_^ SG

jia you. Very Happy i hope you two can be together for real.

curiousOrange SG

But did she enjoy the date with you?

Enjoy = A fun and memorable date. Not an auntie agony session.

You want her to associate you with happy feelings, not negative ones.

It seems like all you did so far were listening to her relationship problems (her neg. feelings) and giving her advices.

Chances are, she has already got used to that pattern. She will now only think of talking to you when she has problems because she associated you with her negative feelings.

That I think is one of the reasons why you are always a second option in her eyes.

What I would suggest:

Try not to bring her out when shes feeling moody.

You are making your task twice as difficult because she will be preoccupied with her thoughts during the date.

Your task is to make her enjoy the date and want more. Chances are she will not enjoy herself at all.

She will end up telling you all those problems and turn the date into an auntie agony session. Dont allow that to happen.

So know when to ask her out to improve your chances.

Confessions are over-rated.

I like to have control of the situation at the beginning.

I will never verbally tell a woman I like her until much later in the relationship.

But you can still let her know where she stands through your actions.

Here's how...

When a lady friend broke up with her boyfriend and asked me outI did the following which you might find useful:

The art of listening without giving advice.

Give her eye-contact and nod your head at appropriate times when shes talking to let her know you are paying attention and listening attentively.

Throw in some random phrases like uh huh, hmm, I understand how that feels etc.

Dont give her advices at all because you end up spending 1 or 2 hours discussing those crap advices that have got nothing to do with you.

So dont advice. Just be a good listener.

Your aim is to enjoy yourself during the date

Give her 10 mins max to talk about whats bothering her. Be a good listener during that time.

Then spend the rest of the time making both of you enjoy the date.

Go for action dates! Thats the best way to help her forget her stress and worries.

In my case, I took her to a funfair with a bad ass Viking so that she can scream into my ears until they bleed.

Then I took her to an arcade so that she can kick my ass in some computer game. (of course I told her I purposely let her win).

You see why I said confessions are over-rated now?

The way you talk and listen to her.
The way you look at her.
The way she can enjoy herself when shes with you.
The way you touch her at the appropriate time.

Those are the things you should focus on.

Confessions will not raise her interest. So don't worry about whether you should confess, it is not that important.

Focus on doing the right thing and when your gut tells you the time is right, grab hold her hand.

But for nowstart talking to her again.

Stop avoiding her and once you are in talking terms again, ask her out and do the right things.

Good luck.

rainee SG

curiousOrange brought up an interesting point.

Get her to see that you are an interesting person to be with, and let your concern for her shows through your action. And I mean do those actions by yourself, not through your best friends or her best friends.

ChairmanJay SG

Originally posted by curiousOrange:

But did she enjoy the date with you?

Enjoy = A fun and memorable date. [b]Not an auntie agony session.

You want her to associate you with happy feelings, not negative ones.

It seems like all you did so far were listening to her relationship problems (her neg. feelings) and giving her advices.

Chances are, she has already got used to that pattern. She will now only think of talking to you when she has problems because she associated you with her negative feelings.

That I think is one of the reasons why you are always a second option in her eyes.

What I would suggest:

Try not to bring her out when shes feeling moody.

You are making your task twice as difficult because she will be preoccupied with her thoughts during the date.

Your task is to make her enjoy the date and want more. Chances are she will not enjoy herself at all.

She will end up telling you all those problems and turn the date into an auntie agony session. Dont allow that to happen.

So know when to ask her out to improve your chances.

Confessions are over-rated.

I like to have control of the situation at the beginning.

I will never verbally tell a woman I like her until much later in the relationship.

But you can still let her know where she stands through your actions.

Here's how...

When a lady friend broke up with her boyfriend and asked me outI did the following which you might find useful:

The art of listening without giving advice.

Give her eye-contact and nod your head at appropriate times when shes talking to let her know you are paying attention and listening attentively.

Throw in some random phrases like uh huh, hmm, I understand how that feels etc.

Dont give her advices at all because you end up spending 1 or 2 hours discussing those crap advices that have got nothing to do with you.

So dont advice. Just be a good listener.

Your aim is to enjoy yourself during the date

Give her 10 mins max to talk about whats bothering her. Be a good listener during that time.

Then spend the rest of the time making both of you enjoy the date.

Go for action dates! Thats the best way to help her forget her stress and worries.

In my case, I took her to a funfair with a bad ass Viking so that she can scream into my ears until they bleed.

Then I took her to an arcade so that she can kick my ass in some computer game. (of course I told her I purposely let her win).

You see why I said confessions are over-rated now?

The way you talk and listen to her.
The way you look at her.
The way she can enjoy herself when shes with you.
The way you touch her at the appropriate time.

Those are the things you should focus on.

Confessions will not raise her interest. So don't worry about whether you should confess, it is not that important.

Focus on doing the right thing and when your gut tells you the time is right, grab hold her hand.

But for nowstart talking to her again.

Stop avoiding her and once you are in talking terms again, ask her out and do the right things.

Good luck.

[/b]

thanks for ur points. i appreciate them too.

nanren4ever SG

The moment has come and gone. U asked her if she in the PAST liked u and she said yes. The feeling u have for that person at a particular point in time may not mean that u will have the same feeling forever. She has moved on. Why haven’t u? Don’t be like me. I had waited 8 years for this girl, and she said she liked me too in the past. Now, we can only be good friends. Maybe that’s what u should be with her too.

ChairmanJay SG

haha thanks for all ur comments..now i shall wait for the right time to come. Very Happy

temujin1980 SG

How old are you kids? Just study first lar don’t let a girl screw up your life.

ChairmanJay SG

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duan le de xuan zai zen me lian
A broken string, how can it be reconnected?

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wo de gan jue ni yi ting bu jian
My feelings, you already cannot hear

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ni de zhuan bian xiang duan diao de xian
Your changes are like a string that¡¯s been broken

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zai zen me jie yin dou bu dui
No matter how I adjust, the sound won¡¯t be right

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ni de gai bian wo neng gou fen bian
Your changes, I have the ability to distinguish

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wo chen mo ni de hua ye bu duo
I¡¯m silent, you don¡¯t have much to say either

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wo men zhi jian shao le shen me bu shuo
Between us, what are we missing? Let¡¯s not say

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ai yo wei xiao hou biao qing zhong yu you dian nan guo
Aiyo¡After smiling, my expression finally has a bit of sadness

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wo zhe ni de shou
Holding your hand

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wen ni jue ding le zai zou
Asked you for your final decision before I left

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wo tu ran shi huai de xiao
I suddenly laughed with a relieved heart

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xiao sheng pan xuan ban shan yao
The laughter circled around the middle of a mountain

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sui feng zai piao yao a yao
Floated with the wind, swaying

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lai dao ni de mian qian rao
Arrived before you, pacing back and forth

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ni lei shui wang xia de diao
Your tears streamed down

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shuo hui ji zhu wo de hao
Saying that you will remember my goodness

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wo ye wan qi le zui jiao xiao
I also curled up the corners of my mouth, smiling

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ni de mei yi jing gei le shui
Your beauty has already been given to whom?

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zhui le you zhui wo yao bu hui
Chasing and chasing again, I can¡¯t get it back

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wo liao jie li kai shu de ye
I understand that the leaves that have left the trees

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shu yu di shang de shi jie diao xie
Belong to the world of the ground, withering

Chorus

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duan le de xuan zai tan yi bian
A broken string, playing once more

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wo de shi jie ni bu zai li mian
My world, you¡¯re not in it

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wo de zhi jian yi jing tan chu jian
My fingertips have already become calloused from the playing

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hai shi wu fa liu ni zai wo shen bian
But still there¡¯s no way for me to keep you by my side

àÁËµÄÏÒ ÔÙÔõüNßB
duan le de xuan zai zen me lian
A broken string, how can it be reconnected

ÎÒµÄ¸ÐÓX ÒÑÂ ²»Ò
wo de gan jue ni yi ting bu jian
My feelings, you already cannot hear

µÄÞD× ÏñàµôµÄ¾
ni de zhuan bian xiang duan le de xian
Your changes are like a string that¡¯s been broken

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zai zen me jie yin dou bu dui
No matter how I adjust, the sound won¡¯t be right

µÄ¸Ä× ÎÒÄÜò·Ö±æ
ni de gai bian wo neng gou fen bian
Your changes, I have the ability to distinguish

parn SG

It's never too late to let another person know how you feels about her...as long as both of you are healthy and alive. And yes, according to what I've read...she does liked you in the past when she's recovering from her sadness.

Why not take another chance and confess to her that you liked her too? Remember...you got nothing to lose if you tell her that you like her too and you are serious about her. Cos when you keep it from her, you will definitely lose her and regret. Think through thoroughly and decide if you want her to be in your future or not and stick to your final decision.

Well...it's good that you trust what your instinct is telling you...that she's probably sending out signals to you that signify she is also interested in you. Smile

Do not be afraid about rejections, as you are probably her close friend at the moment and she won't be so outright and heartlessly reject you. She won't hurt you in a way that will brings you nightmarish memories okie... Smile

Everybody is constantly seeking out the right 'one' for themselves, but they often have little choice to choose from...cos mostly are people which they are directly associated with. Even then, the 'one' might not turned out to be the real 'one' afterall. But there are alot of cases where we don't really need to find the 'one' for ourselves, cos the 'one' that we think he/she is...dislikes us. Afterall, it will all boils down to our individual ability to love whoever that we're with at the moment. And if we have learnt how to love an individual, we will realise that we don't actually need to seek out the 'one' anymore, cos love is reciprocal.

Anyway, I wish you all the best with your gal. And may both of you appreciate and grow each other's love forever. Smile

Good luck. Smile

wadsad SG

hey.. guess wat… juz when i wanna tell her i stil like her and wanna be with her… 1 of her best fren told me she now like some1… yup… so guess u should juz do smth asap… dun be like me… keepin waitin… in the end… u regret…

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