mY theory

yuntian SG

sorry this post repeated ....i post wrongly....

tanks for the comments, replies and suchs....
realli feel very enlightened and touched by all yr replies....realli...

after some thought, i came up with this theory(or thought)....

wat i find ironic is tt ( generally, apply to everyone, i think..) is tt when u reject someone, its because tt u find him(her) ~undesirable(maybe not pretty enough? attitude sucks? yada, yada)....
therefore, u r 'superior', have a choice, and is so called the 'better' person...

but, when someone( tt u like~ of course Very Happy ), rejects u (FOR THE SAME REASONS)....even if he(she) dun say it out....

it sucks...and it's ironic.....

wat do u guys think....tats wat i feel now, and tt promped mi to start this thread....

..as usual, pls post all yr comments, suggestion, and if u tink im crapping, can slap mi(verbally) if u wan.... Very Happy p.s.~ if u dun understand wat im saying....can ask la....

Ito_^ SG

*slaps yuntian*

its fated. Twisted Evil

nightsky87 SG

Well, to be accepted you first must be rejected. Because to accept, you have to reject rejecting.

drx SG

humm can explain with your case and what you have experience?
Is too early to say who is right and who is wrong.

When you reject someone thats not mean you are superior but is when you feel that you do not like the person and do not wish to drag each others time.

When someone whom you like rejects you. She or he may in fact helped in by not wasting your time and effort. Imagine in the worst case, the person whom you like made full use of you and ask you to buy expensive things and waste your time and effort in the end dump you like trash. How would you feel? I went through the worst case before and trust me is painfull.

So I do not think what you have said is crap but in fact highlighted somethings which each of us fear. Rejection is not always bad if you can handle in a mature way.

Dendrite88 SG

Hello threadstarter:

Yups, its really ironic, since the one you like rejects you and then someone whom likes you , you reject. Its like part of a tormenting emotional cycle which happens to everyone.

I have been rejected 3 times and rejected only 1 girl before. But then, I still feel guilty rejecting that girl (since im not that good looking blah blah), and I feel even more sad if I'm rejected by the girl I like.

Nice thread, I wanna see more experiences of people posting here. And no, you dont deserve a slap, more likely a +1 since its such an interesting topic. Smile

Eclipzer SG

at times when one reject the other...
got several reasons...such as
she is fat...
she is ugly...
her personality suk...
u dun wann to stead...
when u reject someone, i dun tink you will tink abt being superior than dem

alexkusu SG

so…wats the theory? can give me executive summary in 20words or less?

StarPuppy SG

hmm...threadstarter, a good theory u have in mind and some of the people here have the same theory as you

Very Happy

Link: MC's theory

but some times the behaviour and interest dun clash....

Cool Cool Cool

~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy

Yunhaier SG

Nobody like rejections, therefore it is natural to feel 'sucks'.

And you are saying that the person who issues the rejection, holds the power to make the decision and thus, putting him/herself high up in a pedestal, which implied 'superiority'.

Does it ever happen IF Love saturate within her psyche and insinuate her to be in a relationship with you? Without considering vast possibilities, a simple equation would be if love was present in her, she would naturally desire a relationship with you and if it never existed, this desire will not be available as well.

So whoever that accepted that BGR proposal, technically, he/she have to be 'inferior' in order to accept the relationship? Because he/she has to bring to your level, which suggested on a lower plane, when she actually had the power to be above all?

In reality, there are actually people who feel 'inferior' when they are in the position of 'being chased' and not necessary at the apex they are offered.

Inferiority and superiority complex is a state of mind. It only reflects the person overall esteem. Idea

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Love is Freewill.

This is the First Law of Love.

The birth of relationship is based on individual freewill.

P.S: Love may be uncontrollable factor, but a relationship is within our span of control. (CloUdiSm Remix III) Idea

Cheers

FBI SG

Is very true man. So the best is to stay single! Laughing