Originally posted by curiousOrange:
[b]Anticipation: Her shield will be up when you initiate
contact.
Ever received a call from an old friend whom you haven’t heard from
for ages?
You will wonder what her intention is. To make her more receptive
to your approach, you will probably have to soften the impact on
her.
Planning: Make use of the shared history you have with
her.
I assume you know this. The initial contact is a delicate task. If
you are too aggressive, she will freak out.
Drop an email and make use of that shared history with her to
create rapport. Think about the previous conversations you had with
her. Anything you can make use of?
What are her interests and hobbies? Was there some funny incidents
you can think of that can help you break the ice?
How you can incorporate them smoothly to convince her you are
contacting her to reminisce that shared history and nothing more at
this point?
Execution: An example.
After a short introduction…
Eg:
“Currently, I am making
preparations for my back packing trip to Egypt 2 weeks later.
I was sorting out my old photos when I suddenly remembered you
telling me some time ago that your “wildest” fantasy is to kiss a
mummy in a pyramid some day!
I guess I’ll do that on your behalf and let you know how that feels
when I get back!”
Then ask her about what is going on in her life right now. Mention
some common friends whom you have not contacted for years and ask
her whether she is still keeping contact with them.
Some thing you should
think about:
If she did not initiate any contact with you all these years. It
shows that her interest level is probably LOW all along.
Are you sure you are not trying to “rekindle” something that wasn’t
there in the first place?
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If she did not initiate any contact with you all these years. It
shows that her interest level is probably LOW all along.- I do not
agree with it because there could a hundred reasons wh she did not.
Like i said before....situations like:-
Parent or sibling pass away
parents strict
financial problem
sorting out their own life
busy in building career headstart
studies
....list can go on...
