Dear Starfish,
You've learnt a very valuable lesson in life, as well as in love.
Being good does Not equate to being treasured, loved, cherished,
& does NOT equate a happy forever after relationship. As you've
learnt, love, & relationships, are 2-way. When 1 partner gives
& gives, No matter how she gives, it won't be enough.
Your bf is still young? Being young & ambitious, he's gotten
involved in a company & doing his studies at the same time.
Ambition is Not a bad trait, as some like to think. It can be good
in that he's trying to expose himself, albeit at a young age, to
the working world.
The bad thing is, he's too young to manage everything. Something's
gotta give. Also, you're at the age whereby you would want a lovey
dovey, smelling like roses relationship whereby you can spend time
with your darling, etc. This isn't wrong, it's normal for your age.
It's only later that you'll learn to enjoy the independence &
time away from your partner. This comes with age.
You're still young. As I've mentioned above, a relationship can't
be sustained by the efforts of just 1 party. Both parties hafta
contribute & be willing to make the effort. Your bf, or should
I say ex, clearly has other priorities right now, as many young men
are. It's part of his growing process, please don't hold it against
him.
There're times when the timing is just Not right, or it's just Not
meant to be. Take this as a lesson in life, cry all you want, as
the pain must still be very raw. But please don't enter a rebound
relationship because you're feeling vulnerable. Learn to love
yourself & enjoy your company. When you're ready, the right guy
will come along.
FeowFeow
