Originally posted by projectlime:
at first, it really seems wow, the best love story every. breakup,
without any contact, 2yrs later, contact back and get back
together. really fall in love back again. (i noe it have happen
before to others, but its just really 'wow' for me)
As you said, 2 years without contact. Ever wondered
why did both of you get back together? Is it really because of
love? Or is it because of a 'love' based on memory? Is it because
of regrets? More likely than not, its not because of true love. To
put it simply, both of you dont even know how each other has
changed. Its like jumping into the water, without even knowing how
the water is like
sometimes on the phone, we really dont have any idea at
all wat to talk about!! maybe one of th reason is, we cant do alot
of things together. and its really hard to communicate if ya dont
really have anythin in common iwt that person.. yea?
Is it really that you both have nothing to talk
about, or you dont even make the effort to talk about something?
Talking doesnt have to be on something that both of you have in
common. It can be simply what happened today, yesterday; the minor
stuff. Small talks like this will help both of you to understand
each other more, and it can also link up to other stuff, which
perharps both of you have in common
and also THE REAL PROBLEM IS, her family DOES NOT noe
aabout our relationship and they cant! been puttin it up wit it,
acceptin the fact that we gotta be careful while we are out, HAVE
to get back by 7pm. have to tell her sis or mom that shes goin out
wit her GIRLfren..ALWAYS. ya noe, i really need a girl that can be
there for me whenever i really need her. be there to pull me up
when im down. and of coz ill be there for her no matter
wat.
So am i right to say that you KNOW that there is
such a problem, KNOW that you cant accept it and still entered the
relationship? So what if she tells her mum that she's going out
with her female friends? IMO, you're more of like finding faults in
the relationship. It is not her fault that she has to do this. It
would be much more better if both of you can just have a talk over
this matter, letting her know what you feel. She doesnt always have
to be there physically beside you. Letters, SMS, calls can have the
same effect as well. If you need her to be always physically there,
its more like lust than love to me
i dont wana break up.. (im really afraid it gonna hurt
us both, alot! rmber 2yrs ago we had some surreal love) but on the
other end, im still like lookin out for chicks tryin to know some
if possible. am i a physcho, lust for sex maniac or wat? (but i noe
im not ah... haiz
The more you fear, the more likely that it would
happen. Instead of simply fearing, work out a solution with your
girlfriend. Reflect on the 'mistakes' that caused the breakup 2
years ago and change.
Regarding the chicks, do you wanna know them just to widen your
social circle, or wanna know them so that you would have a back up?
As you can see, there are many questions in my reply. This is
because i feel that if YOU dont reflect and merely wait for
opinions, nothing is gonna change. YOU have to do the thinking
