Originally posted by smallcloud:
what is the
best way out?
i'm into the 2nd month of a relationship.
he had a bad relationship before me, and i had a bad one before him
too. initially, we started out fine. having lots to talk about and
to share. but we were both holding back for fear of being trapped
in another relationship tragedy. but he was able to walk out of his
past. i'm still overshadowed by all the possible cheatings or lies
that may happen to me. to make things worse, i have dreams of him
cheating on me.
i really wan to love him. i'm quite certain he's not that bad a
person, but i juz can't trust him with my heart. i thought i was
able to, thats why i agreed to be his gf in the 1st place. before
the relationship started, i wasn't as petty or sensitive. but as
time passes, all the ugly sides of men start haunting me again. it
led me to become very sensitive and possessive again.. and i know
i'm hurting him because the way i'm behaving sort of reminds him of
his past.
i really don't wan to hurt him. but i don't wan to get hurt too.
when i put my defences up, he could feel that i am colder towards
him, and he was upset about it. he sort of "runs away" when i "run
away" from him, which only makes me feel even worse.
Fear is a factor thats always affecting.
How about this ? If you don't put your all into the
relationship,
Will you ever know of the true outcome and results ?
Worrying helps keeping him in line, but don be too tight on
him.
After all he's a man, and he needs to breath too.
Trust is a important factor, you must trust him enough to tell him
how you feel.
i feel so lost now. it made me feel as if i regretted saying yes in
the first place. i dun wan the relationship to fail and lose him.
if i had kept him as a friend, i might have been able to keep him
by my side.
then again, if i hadn't give the relationship a try, i wouldn't
know. but now i'm afraid to know.
i'm feel like a lost kid. i really wan to love and treasure
him.
help me.. 
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So do you like him ? do you want to be with him ? This you must be
sure.
Like being a friend to him or a Mate. Its a totally different
stuff.
If you really love him. Trust him first slowly..
Just tell him, what you expect.
And Ask him of what he expects of you.
Keep both of yourself updated.
No point keeping each other in the dark about stuffs that each
other should know.
It might take forever to find out.
Good Luck..
Cheers Lady. Just Be honest with yourself and the guy.
Thats doing him a favour. 
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