Things
are flowing way too hasty and you are running on a perlious track.
The meet up constitute merely one month and the sleeping together
part had already occured. It may not be easy to recover from a
failed relationship of three solid years - but bear in mind that
emotionally, the reaction to this sudden void could be the very
reason why all these scenario took place.
Love becomes very blur and you have people waiting to fill in
application... hoping for some success in wooing you. One candidate
arrive and you sees him as a potential. To you, it probably means
that you are too used in being in a relationship that
subconsciously, singlehood seemed so alien to you. To this man, it
could mean sex, fun and company.
When sex comes into the picture BEFORE a relationship, it is like
putting the cart before the horse - all your variables changes. If
people could have the opportunity to walk out of a retail store
with any items and pay some other day, what are the chances anyone
would pay? Even if you will receive some payment, one thing is for
sure: anyone who
pays will delay the payment.
Your man isn't shy - in fact, he is reviewing his stand now.
Chances are, his feelings for you may not justify a relationship
for him. Things are 'cool' now? Of course things are 'cool'! All
the fun MINUS the commitment and responsibility of a
relationship... who doesn't want it? Just like who doesn't want to
walk out of any retail store, with any items, while paying on a
later date?
***
When you fall in Love, you draw up the portcullis
that guards your emotions. You become vulnerable to emotional
injury and this is inevitable because you allowed access for Love
to enter. You cannot Love without Hurt, even with the best security
system you set up emotionally. This is an unwritten promise.
It seemed to me that you need more time to get over yourself before
embarking on a new journey in BGR. After all these 'fun company'
you gain from each other, you become fearful as certain
familar confusion
(probably as experienced in your previous relationship) are
surfacing. You now demand a relationship to secure your stand, but
your man hesitated.
There are reasons why he is hesitating and being shy has absolutely
nothing to do with it. Please spare some thoughts to my post and
think. 
Cheers
