A Qstn For The Ladies: Being a Third Party

last SG · 2005-11-28T13:25:42+00:00

wow!!well said!! wat mature & sensitive attitude u hav.I agree we shud not judge..be a friend. Merry Christmas.

sharked SG

To the ladies of this forum:

Doing you think its alright to get involve with a married/attached man even if its just purely physical and that you knew he was married/attached right from the beginning?

alfagal SG

no manz..
u will only sink in deeper....

browniebaobao SG

physical? to me, it's equally bad as emotional.

or put it this way.. I may be able to forgive my bf/husband for being emotionally attached to somebody else, but definitely not if he's physically attached to her. Break up or divorce is inevitable.

sharked SG

ok, i'm not agreeing with being a third party too.... it just hurt to know that a good friend of mine is doing that.... tried talking to her but she avoids the topic, just saying its just a small matter..

i didnt want to spoil our friendship, so now we avoid that topic totally... but it still bothers me....

mistyblue SG

short ans : no

sharked SG

What i really want to know is what are such ladies thinking when they go about getting into such relationship with a man?

wondering if anyone can enlighten me....

browniebaobao SG

it could be juz a fling, as simple as that.

ethane-1,2-diol SG

flings shldn’t be tolerated either…

browniebaobao SG

yes it shouldn't be tolerated, but some pple juz enjoy that.

Gackt247 SG

Haiz.. alot things are easier said then done. Alot things cannot juz be classified simply as black n white.

subarugal SG

cheers..
me support these... Cool
sometime things just happen the way we least expect.
Anyway just be a true fren or buddy support her/ him when they fall.
Isn't that are fren for ? Certain things in life we can't be much help either.. Cool

laosu SG

Let me share a true life story.
I've gotten to know this couple.
The guy is happily married with two kids
The gal is happily married with a kid
Both guy and gal are great buddies...in real life and in bed
They love each other as buddies but never as a lover
They share their problems and happiness with each other
They never argue or get jealous of each other
And ultimately they know they love their own individual family.

mistyblue SG

if ppl want to do this, they do not need any reason.
if ppl don't want to do this, they also do not need any reason.

Its just a choice and whatever the choice, the person who choose have to live with the consequence.

shade343 SG

Everything and anything has a reason.

mistyblue SG

what i meant is a logical or rational reason for their actions

Devil1976 SG

You shouldn't be controlling others' lives just like you won't like to be controlled by others..?

sharked SG

i am not trying to control her life if tts what you meant… ... but there are things deemed as right and wrong… ... was just trying to talk to her about what i think is wrong

subarugal SG

there are times when emotional feel make one irrational in mind.
Just put it these way no one wanna step into such situation neither Cool

M©+square SG

I agree with you that it's wrong.
I also agree with your friend that it's(the affair) a small matter.

There are several categories of people in this world that have differing perspective and mindset in work, ethics, relationships social life and private life.

We are always judging situations by our value system.
You may have seen this issue at your point of view and made certain comments.
Your friend may differ, because she have completely different value in life. Likewise what you deemed right may not be right to many people. Wink

How right is right and how wrong is wrong? It is all up to individuals to comment and judge.

You need to open your mind about this matter; be open minded or just leave the topic alone till she wants to talk about it.

Cheers

simpleger24 SG

no.. not advisable.... nvr involve with marries/attached person....

i have a fren who is like tat.... i can see the relationship is going no where...