when u know your bf is not honest, what do u do?

smallcloud SG

is confrontation the best way out? i'm so tempted to tell him
"hello -.- i know wat u haven't been very honest with me!"
and see his reaction.
but at the same time, i wan to give him a chance and wait out to see if he's ever gona tell me about it.

wat should i do... Sad

Xcert SG

"Is there ANYTHING that U want to tell me?"

smallcloud SG

i've thought of that, but i think its abit obvious i know something.

then he'll be on his guard. i hate mind games. and i really hate people who tell me:

" oh. i didn't lie to u. i juz didn't tell u dats all.."

GRRrr

heavenscloud SG

if u dun ask how will he know lehz???

sinicker SG

“really ahhhh?? WAHHHHHHhhhh!!!!....”

smallcloud SG

if u ask, then it’ll seem like u spy on him.. but sometimes is not u actually spy on him.. is really u stumble upon it.. or he juz didn’t cover his tracks very properly.. wat to do… confront him also not nice. dun hint, he also duno. haiz.

aHGer^83 SG

its tough being a female… dat’s all i can say….

browniebaobao SG

wat did he do? muz see wat he's not honest about lor.

browniebaobao SG

u checked his hp and saw smses from girl(s)? Rolling Eyes

hisoka SG

just leave him a relationship built on lies will not last

rainee SG

I will confront him, or slip in somewhere during our conversation, what I will do to men who are not honest Laughing

Like I will leave him as soon as I find out, cos I do not think a liar will make a good bf or husband.

BadzMaro SG

Tell him to reveal his dishonesty...or NO SEX! NO BLOWJOB! Laughing

BufPuf SG

tell him that u forgot to tell him something
..den after that add that u wan to share verything in yr life with him

den ask him whether he got anything to update u..

think make it a point bah...everyday update each other...what is going on loh

Wanda SG

Don't confront first, lie down low...keep what you know as your 'bullets', and if the lying continues, it will be time to dump him, then hit him hard with all your collected 'bullets'.

If it's just a one-time white lie, then forget it and let it pass. Wink

WiNtEr'SkiLL SG

talk with him,
lay down the conditions

as a couple we should be honest with each other right ?

zeny SG

u want to test a guy ....
easy lar start lieing to him lor ...

he can play with you with his lies why not play against him with your own?

let him taste a bit of his own med....

some guys never learn....until they kena themselves....

coffeeortea SG

try and talk about something that might lead to you asking him the question u wanna ask, dont make it too obvious though.

trajet SG

Maybe start with serious conversation
"I've been honest to you in everything... everything... and I expect that you be honest with me also... Anything that you haven't told me or lied to me? Just tell me... It's pointless if you're trying to hide anything... Anything rot and hidden will reveal itself.... I won't be angry with you... But I'll be angry if I found ur dishonesty myself next time"

Then if he really be honest to you... Calm yourself down as what you promise... If you get angry... the next time he wont be honest to you anymore..ever... You can talk about it the next day.. "Yesterday you mentioned about this this this.. can u explain that?"...

smudgey SG

be honest with him.

talk to him in a calm manner... but always have this in mind :

It might not be that he lied, might be a miscommunication, misunderstanding, or simply different practice (as in, it didn't occur to him that he needs to tell you)

try talking it out... no need confrontation so harsh...

smallcloud SG

hmmz.. i think wat guys fear from girls is that u'll have a hard time explaining truths to us. its better juz "not telling".. or "lie about it". right?

but how come u guys dun understand that we arn't THAT unreasonable sometimes.. Wink