It's been quite some time since I last broke up with my ex and I
feel that I've already given myself enough "cooling time" , 6
months to be precise and I've decided to play the dating game once
again....
Of course I have someone in mind and her Os are gonna be over in 3
days time but there's just one main problem which I should be most
concerned about. There's this guy who has been chasing her for the
past 2 years but to avail. From what I've heard so far , the last
time he confessed his feelings for her , she rejected him nicely
and she being open minded enough , accepted him back as a normal
friend and it seems that he still hasn't stop in his pursuit for
her heart. Right now the girl I like and him are close friends. The
thing is , he is ahead of me by a lot of steps assuming that he
still intends to pursue her.
Being open minded for a girl like her , she lets him send her home
on some occasions , goes out with him but all is done within the
constrains of a friendship and nothing more than that....
Basically I find it kinda hard to even arrange a group outing with
her as she has her own schedules which I respect but all I'm hoping
now is a series of group outings to make me get to know her better.
I'm not eyeing for love or a relationship from her currently but at
this moment , I regard her as someone whom is worth getting to know
more about. He still has the hots for her and hangs out with her
often since they stay near each other. Since I've known her for 2
years , one might say that I don't even need a group outing to woo
her but over this period of 2 years , it's like I try to woo her
for 2-3 months , then stop and then woo her again and then stop.
Whenever I stop wooing is because I find it so hard just to even
get to know her better given how much dedication she puts into her
studies and that's why I'm banking on this period of time since
It's after the O levels to get to know her better.
Okay back to that guy....
I think I'm quite good in anticipating his moves towards her. Take
for example , when it was her birthday and a few hours before I was
to meet her to give her present , I saw his MSN nick which read
something like this , "I'm going out to study". Being an analytical
and proactive person ,
I already had this damn strong feeling inside that he would also be
there even though my friend refused to listen to my crap , in the
end HE WAS INDEED THERE....
To cut a long story short , I gave her the present , waved and said
"Hi" to him and left. Caught him telling his friend who was with
him some stuff about me which kinda pissed me off a bit but that
doesn't really bother me much.
So basically , how do I deal with a love competitor?
I've read in love books that the best way to win a girls heart with
a love competitor is to be yourself which I really intend to be. By
being yourself , there will always be a chance that that love
competitor seeing me as a threat , forces himself to confess his
feelings for her which 99.99% ends up in a rejection for whatever
strange masculine reason he might have. Can anybody please
enlighten me on how to deal with a love competitor? Your comments
are very much appreciated....
Or should I just extent my "line of sight" to keep my options
open?
