Suppression aka repression

The man who was death SG

Anyone know where got sites tell u how to deal with suppression or articles on it?? best is u know got what forum.

Thanks

Mr. Green

darknessfall SG

go mental health website lah..sure got links one....

in sg, where else do pp go beside buangkok for treatment???

CP25 SG

wat kind of suppression? can u elaborate, so we can share?

The man who was death SG

hmm...anger, hate mostly that

dragg SG

anger management?

IMH.

The man who was death SG

let's say u are very angry with someone but then u dun do anything about it and suppress it and tolerate it, this also anger management??

Devil1976 SG

- The Health Promotion Board runs a Mind Your Mental Health education programme to raise awareness of depression.

For information on this, call 1800-223-1313 or visit the website, http://www.hpb.gov.sg

Devil1976 SG

Yes.

dragg SG

yes. do you always feel that way or only towards one person?

CP25 SG

u shdnt suppress it mah..LET IT ALL OUT is wat u shd b doin..

if u suppress too long n too frequent, it wil be harmful to ur health..

For me, I will start by confronting e person Im angry with..n find out / explain to dat person y my angered reaction ... or if its case of some1 provoking u...TO HELL with dat Idiot...trash it OUT with him/ her!

He/she scold u, jus SCOLD bk...dun keep quiet Twisted Evil

(not encouraging sparring or violent behaviour here...jus wan to convey e msg dat throw e anger back at e idiot wo first provoke u....or find out exactly y he's making u angry, and let him know ur angered state...ACKNOWLEDGE the presence of ur anger within... Cool

The man who was death SG

Cannot find anything on anger management on the hpb or IMH sites leh

Devil1976 SG

There are discussions on depressions handling and such... Alternatively, give them a call to make enquiry?

smudgey SG

you can try taking up a kinda sports like.... maybe kickboxing or just go gym and vent out all your frustrations!!!

dragg SG

meditation is a better way out.

i have a lot of problems with anger too.

laosu SG

suppression is not management.
Anger management is ability to divert the anger in another means and uses another method to solve the problem.

You don't suppress anger and tolorate it cause that's simply means bottling it up which one day will still explode. Anger management teaches you to handle that anger in another way which will help to solve the problem in a more peaceful way.

laosu SG

I'm not sure about meditation, but I do have tons of problems with anger too. My way of letting my anger subside (note...I didn't use "suppress") is when I know the anger is building up, I'll close my eyes and take deep breathe until my heartbeat returns to normal beat. Or go for a long long walk alone until I've cooled down and reorganise the whole incident again and try to see things from another angle instead.

It does help sometimes if I managed to catch myself before I flare out. It'll take a long time to get adjust to it and I'm still doing adjustments but apparently my temper did change alot over the years.

But again, this is on personal issue. If you think you have serious problems, better to seek help from shinks. Not only IMH offers this kind of service. Several major hospitals does have shinks too. You can try NUH.

CP25 SG

Mayb try askin yourself wat the other person did to make you so angry?

N if u know e true reason oredi...if it upsets u a great deal n unjust to u, CONFRONT e person, and ask y he/she does this or that.

Can b awkward but better than suppressing it n do damage to urself, or worse flare it on others?

I tried b4 to a sum1 whom had treated mi with disrespect, n becos of my confrontation with tis "popular figure" in e restaurant I was workin in, I LOST e job...but I had a clearer picture of tis person's character after e confrontation (his/her reaction to ur words), and kinda decided its totally UNWORTHY of my time to continue work there, so I left...found anor better job..

End of day, depends alot on urself...R u willing to fight back / at least make ur grievances known to tis person whom has treated u UNFAIRLY?

If he/she doesnt acknowledge ur existence...its ok cos its their problem NOT YOURS..u wil find ur own clique of frens who wil treat u with respect..continue looking, and u will find them Wink

Stay strong. Cheers.

ChEeSeLover SG

In life, We are never solving any problems. We are exchanging one set of problems for another. Everything has pros and cons. When you want the pros, you must also be ready to accept the cons. Its part of life.

If you think death is the solution:

No doubt death will end all these problems that living pple are experiencing. But, will it solve the problem or merely exchanging for yet another set of problems? What makes you think the dead isn't facing any problems as well?

Death is easy, but suicide is not. Everyone is fearful of death. One way or another, we all are KiaSi pple (its not a joke, its a part of our protective mechanism). You need a huge amt of courage to overcome this fear in order to take your own life. If you could master such courage to die, why can't you face something thats so trivial called repression?

WiNtEr'SkiLL SG

hmmm.. tell me if anybody knows

dragg SG

this is not a recommended way of handling anger.

it is definitely a wrong one.