What i should do next?

Greedyman SG

i know i'm stupid, but i think i fell in love for a girl at pub.

girl A were intro by a hi-bye drinking(very bro after few cup of wine) friend's gf. feel very comfortable when chatting with A.

my friend's gf hint me that night that the gal find me quite interesting , but it not my style to be aggressive, just manage to hold her hand on the 1st night.

after that night, i dont know why. i only call her when i going to clubbing on friday and weekend. maybe i too enjoy/easy chatting and drinking at pub. dont dare to follow up normal dating. she will come alone just to join me and my friends and only stick to me.

i really want to change our relation for not only clubbing accompany . so i hint her thur sms 3 days ago that i will put a stop for a period from clubbing. but after that she msg back " so i cannot see you again?".
*that mean she will be there without me?

i dont know how to msg her back...till now.

what should i do Sad

Kennerve SG

Eh.. sorry ah.. what does this sentence means.. Can you re phrase it nicely.. A little hard to understand.

From how i interpret.. Is like you hint her that you will stop going clubbing.. and she say she will go without you??

Correct me if I am wrong. Thanks.

Originally posted by Greedyman:

[b]i have very strong feeling that if i really make break this clubbing outing with her only. so i hint her thur sms 3 days ago that i will put a stop for a period from clubbing. but after that she msg back " so i cannot see you again?".
*that mean she will be there without me?

[/b]

Greedyman SG

sori, i re-phrase the line.

PMLEE SG

Ur in luck. She likes u! Wink

Kennerve SG

hi.. Thanks for the re-phrase..

Ok.. From where I am understanding.. There is a chance that she MAY like your company.. But I guess its a little to early to use to word like.. or love.. More like a crush to me..

The fact she said "She can't see you".. has some "hint" that she misses you.. But whether she misses your company at pub or outside.. That I won't know.. You would need to slowly figure out yourself.

You can always reply her by saying "We can go out to movie or dinner or something rather than pubbing" That will give you a chance to meet up or have an excuse to allow her to meet up with you..

Picking up a girl from a pub DOES NOT mean that it is a bad thing.. But pre-cautions in every form must be taken..

In the meantime.. Slowly let this potential relationship grow.. Rushing will lead you straight to hell..

Cheer dude..

All the best. Wink

Yunhaier SG

Why don't you dare to date her for other activities, apart from clubbing? You already dated her when you call her for clubbing session - what's the difference? If you are telling me you don't know how to ask her and never did... ok - but you have already been there done that... I don't see the reason for your hesitation.

Unless you are telling me you fear one on one dating. Rolling Eyes

You can begin by meeting her BEFORE actual clubbing starts, say for dinner or something. You won't be clubbing for a period, but that doesn't mean you can't meet her ya? Idea

Cheers

Greedyman SG

after above reply, i think i know what the problem im facing.

it really very hard to adjust a party company to serious relationship , too good & comfortable when clubbing and i dont have the confident(and i know it very slim) to let her the same feeling from normal dating.

because when clubbing.we hold hand,hug(light one) and goodbye kiss(after little wine) and i really dont know how should i react in 1st normal dating. i know it will be nicer if everything go smoothly up, but ....... Sad

stellazio SG

love is a strong word..you don't even know her well..could be lust.. Laughing

M©+square SG

You've got to start learning my friend.
If you don't know, this is the time.

Are you going to continue all your open minded acts only in clubs and give a 180 degree change once you get out of it?

I hope not. All the best.

Cheers

Devil1976 SG

EXTENDS things from the CLUBBING... eg. Supper after that... Go beach... Go park... Go for strolls... etc.

Greedyman SG

we normally left only after 5am leh... Confused

choco B SG

You've got to try leh. Got to start somewhere!

How about calling her up for a chat more frequently? When you're more comfortable being with her and get to know her more, then date her to dinner or something. You can know through the phone conversations if she's interested in meeting you other than for clubbing too; ask her what she likes to do e.g. movies, beach, etc.

Manager433 SG

Its not easy dating a lady who works in a pub. Most if not all, are not sincere when concerning BRG.

Devil1976 SG

That's NORMALLY... Can't you try to make EXCEPTIONS...? Rolling Eyes

Or do you prefer things to be as 'NORMAL' as it is now...?

M©+square SG

Now you tell me.

How serious are you about this?

Cheers

Greedyman SG

today is a special day!

today we went to club again...she say this is the last time she will go clubbing.
i ask her why? she say she dont like the way BGR happen in club.

i bring up my "seed"...i ask her can i see her again? she say: you can alway come here even with other girl she will not bother. i promise her i will not go clubbing again.

then i see there some tear rolling in her eye...* i know i going to success Wink

(nvm the later part. tell the ending part.)

we have france kiss under her block few time inbetween the kisses she REALLY WANT ME TO SWEAR NOT TO GO CLUBBING ANYMORE!!!!

and at that moment i agree.*swearing in action.

i now preparing to bomb by clubbing bro.

Devil1976 SG

DOn't get this part? Mr. Green

SMAPLionHeart SG

oei nice english leh

Mr. Green

Sekundes SG

Rofl on the English Part. But hey.. All the best for ur future Relationship dude..
She's serious and ur serious. First Give it a shot at trying to understand more about each other first. GLHF man...

Apollo_sg SG

every1 is serious once when the gg gets good.

come back when u hit a couple of bumps down the road....