being parents automatically grants them rights 2 everything?

last SG · 2005-07-10T12:13:35+00:00

Thruout your postings here. Ever Considered shifting out of the house? I guess a few months out of home would do you good. From there, you could decide if y...

M©+square SG

Agree.

i'm rarely home early anyway.

dragg SG

that is exactly the problem.

how did parents and children end up hardly talking to each other?

they brought you up and provided for you, sometimes more than providing for themselves.

try visualising this scenario...

a couple happily hugging and playing with their child, a toddler or maybe older. ten years later they dont or hardly talk to each other anymore.

how do you think the parents feel?

maybe your parents are guilty of all the things that made you unhappy but it is not like you are planning to live with them for the rest of your live!! one day you will leave home and be on your own. most people do that nowadays.

do you really want to make your parents miserable, directly or indirectly?

i am guilty of it too. i hardly talk to my father. i deeply regretted after he died.

Crying or Very sad

rainee SG

I have to take care of them one leh after I start working, so even after I am married I would still end up staying with them. I am not as cruel as to throw them into old folks' home..

shade343 SG

Children owe a duty to parents to take good care of them. Parents have a duty to take good care of children. What goes around comes around...

FaithGuy SG

Well, in the future when we become parents, if there is an intention to do this , in fact I feel , something is very wrong . I am not saying I won't do it , but times life-threatening situation might force you to do so ...

ahshuiger SG

I can agree to what is said here. When I become a father, I said before I don't want my children to feel the way I felf about my parents. I want to be different where my children can come to me if they have any problems. Not like when I was young, I can never go to my parents if I ever have any problems. 18 years down the road, my son do not like to talk to me. He even mentioned " he is the last person in the world I would like to talk to " I may have over done my part, but consider your parent action now, why can't you accept it that they do out of love and care for you??? Do you have to have such a reaction to it ?? Think of it, how many more years live they have before they leave us for good. I am still regretting that my son is not talking to me. I am also regretting that I didn't talk to my father now that he is gone. I hope you don't fall into this vicious cycle.. Like what they say, what go round come around. Sure you can say alot of thing, I promised I won't do this do that, but in circumstances that is beyound your control, you can only start regretting only .... Then you will say "" If only ............... "

Crying or Very sad

alexkusu SG

my parents check my bank acc...wen they r overseas. So I just open another bank acc with different bank and forward the statements to a friend's place Laughing

rainee SG

alright, anyway i just cannot talk to them...my parents accuse me of doing things I never do everytime I opened my mouth...and you cannot imagine what they have accused me of before... Crying or Very sad I have tried being patient and not get angry at them, I have tried to give them gifts during special occasions, but all they ever do to me is get angry at me over things that I have never done... Neutral

And the things they did to me when I was small, you will never know how it is like unless you witnessed it...just talking about it are reminding me of all the bad memories Crying or Very sad

dragg SG

if your parents did something unbecoming of a parent then i guess you have your reasons....

otherwise all children should try to understand their parents. even if you have to give in it is not too much to ask.

try... just try....

Stanley Ho SG

THAT IS WHAT OLD FOLKS' HOME IS FOR MORON IT'S FOR YOU TO THROW YOUR UNWANTED OLD THINGS THERE.
THEY RAISE YOU GIVE BIRTH TO YOU DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO REPAY THEM. IT'S THEIR DUTY AS A PARENT. YOU DIDN'T ASK THEM TO GIVE BIRTH TO YOU RIGHT?

alexkusu SG

1.) Caplocks is for morons..
2.) BastaRds (Unwanted child born out of wedlock would say that)
3.)
4.)

bismarck SG

i almost forgot abt this.
i once stayed 6 weeks in a foreign land with no contact with them other than to tell them i've reached aust and my flight details on my trip back.
i can tell u, i nvr missed them. in fact i was cursing as we got closer to the day we had to fly back.

i feel my parents' harsh handed approached strangled my ability to make judgements in life changing decisions. i couldnt even decide jc or poly that time and what course. it was after 6 decision changes that i settled on my plans for the future. though not as glamourous and well paying as my sis' job as a doctor.

which they still penalise me till now. this is still a sore point even after 4 years of arguements. ironic that my lecturer only taught me for 3 weeks and she realised that and my parents didnt.

my parents are geniuses.

monkey see monkey do. typical explanation for what so and so's actions to other ppl. so waht ? my gran did this to them doesnt mean they are given this right to do it to me. and waht am i supposed to do ?

spool this and spit it out on my offspring?
talk abt inheritance Laughing

nice.
my parents think i have to report to them everything i do. including the weight of my pee that day, how smelly my shi-t is, how many times i shi-t

and they think they are granted the rights to do anything, with immunity.

they probably think i got something to hide and use it as excuse to search.

genius! Rolling Eyes

my mum threatened to disown me and my dad took it as a stepping stone to scold me for other unrelated matters after my sis accused me of using 1 vulgarity on her when we quarelled.

ok loh. my dad scold me can use as much as he wants. until 1 in 3 words are vulgarities.

just now my dad just barge in and scold me for nothing again. asks me when i moving out( i would be glad to actually!) and screams at me for being rude to me. when i asked what i did, he gives his trademark " u think yrself" that usually follows his blanket scolding(where he can scold anything for anything)

bismarck SG

i've always noticed this. when we dont understand them, we have to LEARN to understand them. when they dont understand us, we have to TEACH them.

always the child's fault.

dragg SG

seems like your case is a bit on the extreme.

M©+square SG

Trying looking up the older threads in AA?

rainee SG

haiz actually complains also no use one this kind of thing, can just bite the bullet lor and try to not do the same thing to your own kids next time...Doesn't mean that your parents have done it before you have to do it also...at least try not to repeat the same mistakes they have made... Confused

bismarck SG

now i dont understand waht the hell he is scolding for.

always like that..last week also.

didnt talk to him much 1 or 2 sundays ago. only morning had some small talk then suddenly he ignored me and when my mum came back, she asked me why i told my dad to die. i protested to my mum that my sis and i didnt say such a thing at all because we had no axe to grind and we were both in our rooms, hence didnt have a chance to say anything at all.

4 hrs later, he was ok again. Rolling Eyes

Not4rent SG

it is your fault

Devil1976 SG

Rolling Eyes

OMG!!! SG

Rolling Eyes oso ur fault

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