I had been attached for 2 years already, but overtime i realise
my partner is really someone who dun suits me.
- She suddenly become very complacent and rarely call me up, and
expecting me to be the one who always initiates things.
- She now always find lotsa excuses of her mistake and rarely own
up, if not, dun even care about the whole matter.
- She used to push the extra effort to cheer me up, but now it has
never been the case.
I think its not embarrassing to say in a commited relationship,
sexual involvement is quite important. It pulls them together more
closely, and infact alot of infidelity i heard about are because
one partner doesnt give enough, or dun give for long period of
time. My gf is one type who unfortnately dislike sex, although she
do it with me, she never ask for it and sometimes we got into
arguement because i feel that we are having less and less. Of
course i do admit i desire sex, but i only do it with my gal. If
even now the desire of her is not even there, how are we gonna
survive when we get married?
I know now is her final year, she is really busy with her studies,
but until like we meet 2 days per week? Sometimes i'm really lonely
and need her, she is not around for me. She complains i not
understanding enuff, but have she put into my shoe to think about
it?
I'm really feel very very tired, i feel that its reaching a point
where we wouldnt find happiness in this relationship, and topics
are getting less and less. But we stay together because we are used
to each other's company. I dunnoe what should i do now, sometimes
meeting her seems like seeing a doctor, need to make appointment,
if not dun even have time for me.
Last week, i sense that we are falling apart, so i ask her this:
"If you can chose to beautify ur face or to chose me, which will
you chose?". Ok, this question may seems stupid, but to me its a
choice of priority as she also asked me before "will u chose
between ur game and me?", and yes although i love my games, i still
chose her. When asked that question, she keep saying how can
compare, if compare must compare between people and people, pushing
in many excuse which she loves to give. But hell, there's no third
party wad! Only until she sense i'm getting angry, then she faintly
reply me "you la..." I'm really sad at tt moment, its like the once
main priority for me is not there anymore.
And from that day, we have silence war for 3 days until i give in
and buy dinner for her. When i reach her hostel, she also dun have
much topics to say with me. Ok, i'm quite the jealous type, and so
nice of her super friendly friend called her. Usually after put
down the phone, she used to tell mi who call and what was it about,
but now, nothing. Not even the name of the super nice guy who
called. When i was about to leave after realising there's nothing
to talk about, she onli keep asking "nothing to say liao ar?
nothing liao meh?". Huh? WTF? must i be the one always give in and
hey i travel all the way to ur hostel buy dinner for u leh! Not
even a thanks!
I really sense an end is near, what can i do?
