Depression or Childish/spoilt behaviour

SBS1908B SG

Quit whining and get a life! Try something different! There's no point playing a losing game. Wink

Thank You SG

To Starpuppy:

Laughing

G2hellz SG

WTF. Its you yourself who choose not to make friends. Rejecting the outing just because of what? The 'Oh, I'm not good enough of them' reasons. Why do you put yourself down when others have not done so? Its worse than condemning yourself to death. Do you think people care about how you live your life? NOOOOO! Its you who make your life count. Ask your friends out when you have spare time.

Since your studis are bad, spend time on them when you are at home?

If you don't believe in 'forever friends', so be it. But never tell others this for they might think you are arrogant or such. You cannot tell how long a friendship will last. Full of twists and turns, your best friend might become your worst enemy and vice versa. So why worry about it, since you assume all friendships are bound to break. People worry over everything... when its nothing to be worried about. Just make friends with others, hang out with them. Find out what they like and stuff.. Its okay to change a bit for the people around you. But not to the extent that you ain't you.

stellazio SG

somewhere somehow you will find your meaning in life.. Laughing

ShrodingersCat SG

Hmm.. another reason might be that
despite your low self esteem,
you have very high expectations towards other people
you expect people to be able to do what you do for them
(which isn't entirely fair) and if they fail to do it...
well, immediately you become very disappointed and discouraged
if you can't give without expectations
(if I treat my dog well, my dog should treat me well. etc)
then I think you will find yourself sorely disappointed very often.

Your post reminds me of a friend I met while on a course
She oftens complains about how everyone is only making use of her
and how useless/lousy she is...
but the reality is, I see people doing a lot more for her
cos they hope to change her negative thinking
but she is oblivous to all of it
I see people being considerate to her, showing concern for her
taking extra care cos looks like she could not take care of herself
but at the end of it, her feedback was
'everyone is better than me. Yah, I know you all try but truth is, nobody really cares for me'

and I wonder what it takes for her to change her mind.

CP25 SG

Y R ALWAYS FEELING SO DOWN N ASKING E SAME OLD QUESTIONS ON LIFE??

Go compare urself wif e teens who's been abused by their own parents n staying in homes nursing their wounds.. U R OREDI VERI LUCKY..

Stop complaining & whining n gET A LIFE!

STOP BEHAVING LIKE A CRYBaby! N getting sympathy or worse..indulge in selfpity without doin any action n keep on posting such negative posts onur life.. WE ALL HAV OUR PROBLEMS..jUs that we keep positive abt it

NO wonder ur woes n probs nv stop cos ur negativeness attract e same old negative patterns

WAKE UP for goodness sake.. Evil or Very Mad

smudgey SG

my dear pup, you are not alone.

there are times when I feel like I'm imposing on others when i confide in them or call them out when I'm feeling really lonely,

however, you must keep one thing in mind at all times. "they do not owe you anything!"

meaning,

Exclamation they do not HAVE to be nice to you if they do not want to.
they do not HAVE to go out with you/ask you out if they do not want to.
they do not HAVE to listen to your problems and spend time thinking and
giving you advices, if they do not want to.
they do not HAVE to smile at you if they do not want to.
Exclamation they do not HAVE to treat you like a friend if they don't want to.

this is ESPECIALLY true online!!! because we are all more or less anomynous... hence others can hate this "nick" but they won't know it's me...

so if there are ppl here or in real life who ask you out for coffee, dinner, etc. or try to talk to you, HAVE NO DOUBT that it is because THEY WANT TO!!!

I repeat : "they WANT to!"

they want to
Exclamation know you
go out with you
BE YOUR FRIEND.

so don't say that you are not worth our time. Only I can tell you who is not worth my time (and oh trust me, there are ppl out there that I wouldn't be bothered to even say "HI" to)...

and

Pup, I'm telling you now...

YOU ARE WORTH MY TIME!

Simple_Bear SG

Totally agreed with Dear Dear's statement...

Embarassed

smudgey SG

Pup,

Please take your time to read each and every one of these replies... everyone who replied is genuinely concerned and really want to help you see that the solution to your problems that you seek is within you.

ONLY YOU CAN HELP YOURSELF.

Everyone here sat down, read your post, thought "How can I help Starpuppy" and took the trouble to type a reply that they think can best wake you and help you to help yourself.

everyone has different styles. some uses the gentle approach, some uses tough love, others use really tough words... but we all have one purpose in mind.

I hope that you will treasure this. look at all the replies. there are so many ppl here who care.

Simple_Bear SG

There is a bear here who cares abt a Pup...

Embarassed

SBS1908B SG

Play the winning game! Wink

thinkdifferent SG

StarPuppy, it's all about how you perceive yourself. If you think you are average, the others pereceive you as average becasue you behave like that.
Nobody is average, outstanding or fabulous. If you feel yourself not well among other people, they can sense it and you get their reaction which is the one you just mentioned. It's a circle, you feel as you feel becasue the people behave towards you as they behave, and they behave towards you as they behave becasue they can sense how you feel. Everyone feels better in the presence of positive and merry persons becasue negative and sad persons make them feel negative and sad. It's about your inner attidute.
It's all in your hands and mind, you can do it Wink

M©+square SG

SP: Time to voice out?

Speak out.

Cheers

CP25 SG

hey starpuppy,

r u a female or male, intro request. THXXXXXXXXX

rainee SG

What Starpuppy Heaven? What moderator? You are not making any sense Rolling Eyes

CP25 SG

okie...my eyes abit blur cos of my contact lens.......keke

lalalalal

rainee SG

haha too late, I have already quoted your earlier reply Laughing

Said bad things abt him then want him to intro himself to you?

M©+square SG

Laughing

CP25 SG

okok...i sala..but i realli saw wrongly

believe or not..upto u gals

my conscience clear Cool

Yunhaier SG

I think CP25 is talking about Starblue Heaven.

P.S: Erm... just a question ar: Guys or Girls... make a difference in this problem meh? Idea

Cheers

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