you are using these external measures to determine your
success.
Eg:
What's your rank against your friends, what's the amount of money
you earn against your fridnd, what's your status against your
friends.
But these are external measures and forever, and ever and ever
there will be people who are prettier, morehandsome, richer, more
fortunate, slimmer, stronger, sportier, healthier, in a better
position etc. There will always be someone out there who is always
going to be better than you in one way or another.
Is there no end?
Envy is just an emotion and a feel in everyone.
Everyone feel envious. I feel envious of the Super Models. I feel
envious of the rich people in my office. I feel envious of even my
relatives/colleagues who are rich and had better PR and have a good
life while I slog away for nothing. But, its just a feeling - it
does not have to take over your mind and your life.
Cause I know this feeling will eat me away and make me feel useless
and depressed.
I realised that using these external measures, I can never be happy
with myself and whatever I have. So I made a choice. I no longer
measure myself up to these external standards. Who says being slim
is the way to go. Who says having a high paying job is going to
make me happy? Who says being rich is going to make my life
wonderful?
I measure my own self worth with my own internal measures. Such as
my health, peace of mind, by abilities to even provide advice like
this cause I had a similar insight, and other skills. Life is
really not very exciting nor it is fair. Cause we all never start
out with the same footing - ie some people are already born rich,
some people are born in Lee family, some are born as beggars, and
others disabled. But what matters is what you do with yourself and
be happy with what you acheive even though it might not seem
significant to your eyes. Even taking care of your parents - might
not seem much but its really something. cause if you look out
there, many old folks are abandoned by their kids.
Take it easy and chill out. Take note of what are you comparing
yourself against and if that is being fair to yourself.
