hi guys, not really an urgent and serious problem. just felt
like asking you guys how to deal with such situations, and
people.
i rmb once i post about this irritating guy who stick around with
my group of friends as if his part of our group. but than no one
wants him in (especially me), but he, being super thick-skinned
just blend in and everyone just sui bian and do nothing but talk
behind his back. i'm not those type who like to backstab people
alot, when i don't like someone, i usually make it known to
everyone. even not directly to that person itself, i do drop hints
to the person that im not liking what he is doing. and even when i
talk behind someone's back, i do repeat it (like a rant) to make
sure the "victim" is aware that i'm saying things about him.
probably im the more "fussy" type of people, and get irritated
easily.
on friday we had a movie outing. it was supposed to be an ex class
outing. all of us were from the same class last year (same, now
still). and i told the organiser, " hey don't call that XXX, he
very irritating, don't like to see his face, will make the outing
dulan...etc..etc..". he agreed. but after some discussions with
other friends and classmates we decided to actually inform him. (he
didn't know about all the discussion we had about whether to call
him anot). i was like "ummm..ok...nvm, ANYWAY since it's a CLASS
outing not our grp outing, so why not". here i was prepared to be
forgiving and give him a chance and not to boycott him.
he came, crapping with all of us, AS IF he was part of our group.
my friends were just showing him face by laughing at what he say.
and some of my friends are actually concerned with what people call
"ren yuan" or something like that. they are over concerned about
making friends with everybody and not enemies. as in, their policy
is, " friends are better than enemies" they don't care whether the
person is lame, weird, or unattractive. i was annoyed but i kept
quiet. nothing i can do.
he is a type of person that is selfish, likes attention, but don't
want to help anybody. and when everytime got outing, his the first
one to raise hand and say " i'm in ", and just appear. then
sometimes he just vanish when everyone is doing something
halfway.
believe it anot, im almost 100% sure that what i say is factual. i
have some incidents to prove it right.
during my sec 1 and 2 days, i was quite close to him. as in, he was
my friend. yep, at least a friend. whenever i wanted to borrow
phone from him, he didn't want to lend. and even charge me 20 cents
to use his phone. that was a ripoff. but since i was desperate and
didn't bring my phone (no public fones nearby since it was the
busstop outside school). i closed one eye and decided to forget
about the matter. i'm not that petty.
aside from that, he is extremely money-minded, likes to take
advantage of people.
once i remember him selling me a deck of naruto cards. which he had
opened, at the actual price. he just asked me over sms "do you wan
this and that". i was about to get one anyway so i just said yes.
and end up, he gave me an opened deck and didn't even give me the
instruction manuel that came with it. again, i closed on eye.
until now i have yet to pay him. why? he conned me into believing
that he is actually going to play the game itself, since naruto
card game is quite new. and i believed. thinking that maybe i
should take up the game itself. but infact, i grew suspicious of
his motives. i guessed that he sold me the deck because he bought
it and realised no one was playing it, or he found it somewhere,
bought it at a ubberly cheap price and wanted some quick
cash.
and worst, once there was a sleep-over at my place. and i woke up
to find 20 bucks missing from my wallet. the other two guys that
stayed over stayed awake and slept at the same time as me. while
this guy, (the irritating fellow), woke up when we were sleeping
and slept when we were awake. i grew suspicious, but since i had no
solid evidence..., i couldn't do anything against him. i know that
the two other guys did not do anything as they are my VERY close
friends.
i thought he just wanted to get back the money, since i had not
paid him for the naruto card. i closed the case. but soon he was
spreading around that i owe people money and never return. i was
like "wtf"....and until now i have not even thought of returning
him the money. i considered it was "paid back".
and aisde from all these, he appeared at the stayover at my house,
(before t hat it was a class outing and close friends stayed over
becoz sometimes it was too late), and he came. the day before we
were even having an argument.
he came into my room and dropped his bag. i said, put your bag
downstairs. he said "donwan". and giving me a very pissed off look.
i was" wtf ". and in my heart i'm thinking "hey this is my house".
AGAIN I CLOSED ONE EYE, and im thinking i'm being too nice
here.
and finally...
after the movie yesterday me and two other friends decided to go
play LAN. he just TAGGED ALONG as if it was natural too. at the bus
stop i told him " hey can you don go with us " NICELY, but he
pretended not to hear.
nice, i'm getting abit worked up. some people just piss you off
sooo much. there are ALOT of other incidents which happened. and it
was almost like a passive form of irritation.
what can i do about this? im thinking of making a VERY DIRECT
confrontation with him, infront of all my friends declaring that we
have NOTHING to do with him...and tell him to get lost. not that
our grp of friends are not open, we are quite social with other
people and have friends that are not so close which we sometimes
eat together, joke together. we do accept people, but not when they
are selfish, self-centered, and only know how to make use of
people.
