This is a
conundrum of Love that requires you to make decisions that is
intrinsically sacrificial, for it is neither right nor wrong...
neither good or bad - a mere decision that will determine where you
would steer your love life into.
To wait or not to wait?
You got to understand from his point of view; he doesn't want you
to wait because he cannot afford to bear the responsibility of you
spending your best moments waiting endlessly for a man who has just
began to step into the working society... his initial phrase to
prove his worth through his career. Most men hate to lay promises
that they ain't sure they could uphold and thus often chose to
avoid or give them up completely.
The Love that has blossomed in school is easy to maintain; minus
the mental pressure of age barrier, what's there to hinder is only
innocent stress of school work and there isn't a need to consider
any other factors unlike now - where reality has sunk in. True Love
has no boundary, but the fact is such that we have to consider this
hateful reality and not be delusional about the simple ideology of
Love.
You loved him and he loved you, but it doesn't mean that it would
be suffice for a relationship to continue on forever. It was sweet
memories no doubt, devoid of any complication, which is why you
find it so difficult to give it up. Afterall, you may not find such
love ever again, even by keeping your options open to other
guys.
Still, by waiting, chances are, it would be futile. This is a
difficult relationship; not only by vast age gap, but it has become
a long distance relationship even if he decide to pursue. Let's be
realistic and not dwell too much about the small exceptional
miraculous work of fate - it could be time to wake up
from our sweet dream?
Keep your option open and not eliminate every other potential out
there - it would be an unhealthy mindset to habour (worst if you
are a Taurus, Leo, Scorpio or Aquarius). If it is meant to be, it
is meant to be. I remember someone, who meant something to me
previously, once said this to me:
'...At least the relationship
didn't soured...'
I think this is something you could be thankful for and not cry
because it is over, but rather, smile because it happened.
Cheers
