Friend Or Foe ?

Sekundes SG

There's this guy who likes my Gf...
He's kind of likes to sms my gf ask to go out with him..
its kind of obvious of his actions that he stills likes my gf even after he knows that She and I are an item.
He's sometimes like to stick to her like glue...
Doing obvious things...
WAaaaaay Obvious....

my gal, she's very friendly and cheerful can also find him annoying sometimes...

Just tat sometimes, i don't trust him with my gf,
as they are in the same Activity Group training.

And I feel unease when he's with her.

Friend or foe ?
Any Advice ?

Camellias4me SG

Try to make ur "Boyfriend" presence felt like showing up to pick ur gf after their activity training. Show face more often & he might catch ur 'don't even try or think' msg. There is no need to be hostile unless the bugger doesn't give up. Wink

_Aaron_ SG

Just show yourself more often, and if it still continues, 'warn' him in a friendly way.

"Yo, nowadays you sms my gf alot hor? You know that we're together right?"
"Yea"
"Okay, just thought i'll let you know."

That kinda thing.

Subsequently, you can advise your gf to avoid him a bit, or just to be less friendly, as she may be giving him the wrong signals. This kinda thing happens with the giver being none the wiser..

Just some of the things that could be done.

alexkusu SG

Happens to one of my friends… I asked her bf how does he feel.. he said “Nothing, Im confident about myself”.

Fucking Bitch SG

sometimes its also because of the girl, purposely giving off wrong signals so as to boost her own self-esteem…

parn SG

He's definitely a rival(FOE)...and of course you shouldn't be friendly towards him. In this case, if you think that being unfriendly is not gracious...then you're wrong. And you're not man enough if you don't stand your ground against this kind of nonsense act, but never direct your anger towards your girlfriend...just that irritating guy.

I must implore you to trust your girlfriend at all times...even when sometime coincidences can make it seems like she's betraying you. (I hate those coincidences that are constantly testing everyone)

Your girlfriend chose to be with you and not anyone else, so she deserves your trust at all times...trust her ok? She'll know how to 'siam' any advances and not get herself into any deadlock situations with that guy.

By right, she is not supposed to be messing/mingling with any other guys accordingly to a guy's point of view. But by left, she's not married to you yet...so she's still available to all guys if they are able to worm their ways into her soft-heart. Smile Come on....girls also desire romance and lots of love at any point of time. So if you're boring and static as gravity, don't expect her to be a nun for you. And that's why we get breakups, cos the guys don't keep up to their promises. For example, "You said you love me?...So is that all to your love towards me?" something like this will definitely pop up in the girl's mind eventually. So if you don't want her to think of this, do something about it and defy gravity. Love is constant...but relationship shouldn't be constant...it should be spontaneous and like a roller-coaster ride. Smile

Ask yourself, is that guy doing something that you should be doing for your girlfriend? If that is so, then you should do something about it before you girlfriend realise how boring her life has been ever since entering into a relationship with you.

Maintaining a relationship has so much more heavier responsibilities compared to keeping a promise. So if you truely love your girlfriend, let that desire reaches her everytime both of you are together.

Lead the way in the race of love and leave the rest of the competition behind. Smile

Good luck. Smile

BrUtUs SG

definitely foe... y dun u join them in their outing? this kind of thing is trust your gf, then tell her your concerns...

parn SG

No no no...do not tell her about your concerns. Cos your girlfriend is going to think what a wimp you are. Just be more concerned in your actions, like want to meet her more often and offering to accompany her home after her classes. Smile

Sekundes SG

Hmm Don't show hostile ? What do you mean by that ?
I pick her up after training.

She does avoid him, He's like pest sometimes.

Nah I can't do that... I don't even wanna talk to him much face to face... I just can't bear looking at his face sometimes..

I'm not worried about my gal but the guy haha...

Nah she isn't, she's treats everyone well.. She's kind and caring.. thats the prob attract too many guys..

Sekundes SG

Lol thanks,
I don wanna make things diffcult for her, cause she with the same activity, but... He's not doing anything, haha just not at ease that he's around her.
Fear Perhaps
?

Nah, its for their activity not an outing ^^,

Hmm thanks for the advice..

Tier SG

Foe! haha

think cant do anything too special.

Just let it be more known to him that she has a boyfriend. Try not to feel uneasy, have confident in yourself. I dun think your gf would be the least bit attracted to him.

shade343 SG

Maybe you should have a good settlement talk with the foe.

Sekundes SG

Like how ?
haha.. When I talk to him, I just don feel like pulling the conver for too long.

starblue SG

tell your gal you feel uncomfortable with her and the guy together. and since she doesnt even like being with him, probably you can ask her if she can kindly tell the guy to keep his distance.

caution: do it in an un-possessive manner. use lots of sincerity and genuine love for her. act jealous in a cute way... that should avoid looking too unreasonable. good luck.

boy in blues SG

you purposely jio him out 1 day.
make him sit down, then right in front of him, you and your girlfriend kiss kiss and tian mi mi Laughing
remember to jio me to video cam the candid look on his face.
beats reality TV Mr. Green

seriously.
conquer your fears.
he's no threat.
you'd own him for free in absolutely anything

the.raven SG

challenge him to a fight, the winner keeps the girl. it works.

got once while playing world of warcraft some guy challenged me to a fight just because I asked his GF "r u hot?"

and I lost cuz I was 4 levels lower than him Laughing

Sekundes SG

I tried that, ^^, with the caution u gave, already.
But telling the guy to keep his distance...
I think that might be alittle too much ?

smudgey SG

i say make your presence known, pick her up, buy her little gifts... and TRUST your gal...
she's a big girl.... trust her to take care of herself. tell her that, and also tell her that if she thinks she can't handle him or really really fed up with her, just let you know and you'll take over.

charlize SG

When you see him, give him a wink.

Maybe he will avoid your girlfriend, just to avoid you. Laughing

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... Does your gf shares the sms he send to her...?

If she does, go to THAT GUY... Share his own SMSes with HIM!! Laugh and smile along the way, and tell him about how your gf actually commented how STUPID his SMSes are... That should work for at least quite a while...? Twisted Evil