Is he really into me?

last SG · 2005-09-19T22:32:01+00:00

Hmm...I dunno what your guy is like, but even if he is in NS, he shudnt neglect you during weekends when he book out...my guy is in NS too, but when he book...

babyreyes SG

He says he loves me. But i dont really feel it. After being neglected for a few months, he kinda hinted for a breakup. And his reason was due to me being unhappy all the time. Well i was very upset with his coldness and neglience. haix. Upon knowing it, he agreed to a patch up.

But things still seem the same. Rather stagnant. Haix.He blows hot n cold on me. Almost every wkends, he spends his time at home and with his family. He seem rather into his online games n family gatherings as compared to me. Oh gosh. sigh.

iM kinda dislike going out with his family coz i dont click with them. He knows tat. And felt tat it wasnt a problem at all. =.-""

I told him tat he is neglecting me. And he said tat playing games is his hobby.He did rather play games than chat with me on the phone. Argh. Now we hardly meet each other. = /

Most of the time, im the one talking. He belongs to the quiet type. So when im not in the mood to talk, we will have a cold atmosphere.

Sometimes i feel tat im happier with my frens than him. haix.

alexkusu SG

what answers do you seek my child?

regards
`Lex

Sekundes SG

Well, Break off… Life’s gonna be a pain in the arse if u still think you love him.

starblue SG

sounds like a terrible bf to me.. how old are you two???

Tier SG

Sounds like my heartbreak relationship boohoo~~ Sad
no body deserve to have a guy like this kind! even how sad it is, he is not a long term kind man I predict. extremely good at the beginning?? then as time goes become only in love with his computer games? only you talking on the phone so similar to my case! people say I treat him too good and got taken for granted. I think we deserve better ones!

alexkusu SG

people from different worlds will not get along well

Simple_Bear SG

Since he is not doing anytin to improve the relationship...U know wat to do...whether U wanna continue trying or nt...

But if I were U...I will break off...since he is so erm 'heck care' abt the relationship...

Take care gal and all the best...

Cheers...

Simple Bear...

Mr. Green

smudgey SG

babyreyes, it takes two hands to clap... so if he shows absolutely no interest in being with you, why should you put your life on hold waiting for him?

and He dared to say he rather play games then chat with his gf?!!!

HOW DARE HIM!!! sorrie but that's where I personally will draw the line.

babyreyes, from what you have posted, it seems to indicate that you two hardly spend time together? how often do you meet? what do you do when you meet?

BabyLover SG

his taking u for granted.
talk to him abt it n if he still stays the same..
den i tink theres a limit to it lor..
wats the point of hving a bf who doesnt care,
playing game more impt n always not there for u...
his ardy neglecting u now.. can u imagine yrs down the rd...
it hurts for a start but u wil get over it n find better happiness elsewhr.

sgboy2004 SG

let's meet up and talk Very Happy

papercut87 SG

what kinda boyfriend is that? if he is really into you, he'll put in effort in trying to bridge the gap between u and his family members so that they'll like you. if he is really into you, he'll stop gaming for a short while and talk to you on the phone when you call. if he is really into you, he would be the one being sensitive to ur feelings and not taking you for granted time and again.

just my thoughts... so now, do u think that he's really into you? Confused

maggiemee SG

i agree with papercut87.............his attitude and behaviour show heck care towards u le so think u shld move on and find much better guys than him loh, no point holding onto him and let this relationship to keep dragging and u will get hurt the most.........seems tat both of u are juz used to each other le or maybe nobody wanna initiate the breakup yet bt actually is very obvious tat he dun wan to put any effort in this relationship anymore le............i believe if a guy treasures and truly loves u, he will spend his time with u and with his family and if there is anything going wrong he will change or try to make amends for neglecting u.........no point being with such guy when the facts tat u feel much happier with ur friends than him loh............i believe one dae u will meet ur right ones............ Very Happy

drx SG

Do you still love him?
If yes then you will still want to be with him regardless of what we say.
If you do not love him then is time to go.

Seat down and think carefully is he worth the love you are giving him?
You decide yourself.

revvieeee SG

it takes two hands to clap. and it aint only his fault i feel.

why dont you tell us his side of the story? do you both share common interests?

babyreyes SG

We're turning 22 le.

Shared interests....We dont really have one...Initially we hang out for movies and dinner. We study together. Went ard sg tourist spots...after tat, we just meet our frens for double dates or triple dates.

After like a yr together, he voiced out tat he doesnt like going out every wkend. Yeah..he doesnt like the wkend crowd. Then his family started complaining him tat he is spending too much of his time with me. After tat slowly I went to his place more often. When he went into ns, he doesnt feel like going out anymore.

Haix. Since he doesnt wanna come out, i went to his place. But i find it rather boring to go to his place and stare at the tv screen all day. Im in fact bored to tears. haix.Its not i dont wanna go. Its super boring.

I find no common topics to share with his family. So im rather quiet over there. And usually they be busy with their own things. hai...

Since he wanna spend time with family during wkends, he only meets me for awhile in the afternoon then went home for his gathering. My family usually wkends have their own activity de. So i usually dinner alone when i cant find my frens or htey are busy.

When he is sweet, he is really sweet. when he is mean, he really heartless de.

I dont wish to leave something tat i have spend 3 yrs of my life living in. I dont know how to tell if i still love him not. sighx.

i really wonder if he is serious with me.

Kenashi SG

Would u rather waste another 3 yrs if u know that it might all come to nothing in the end?
First ask yrself whenever u live without him since u don't know if u still love him or not?
I don't think he care much about this relationship based on what u said.

smudgey SG

I know how you feel. I guess you really have to sit down and think about how you feel about him.

seems to me you dread breaking up more because you dread being single again... it was the same situation with me... but sometimes the right decision is the hardest one to make.

if you don't love him, stop wasting your time with him.

babyreyes SG

The right decision is the hardest to make..yeah...agree..

Only a little love is left. Everytime he neglects me, the feelings minus off a little.

I dont wish for a break up. Still hoping tat things will turn out better. But on the other hand, fearing that hope becomes disappointment.

Ive been abandoned a few times already. Sigh.
Dont wish to hurt anybody. dont wish to hurt myself.

smudgey SG

gal, you only have 2 choices here :

1) Stick by him and try to work things out
2) break up, start a new life as a single gal.

no matter what you'll have to chose. and after the choice whichever it is, it will take some getting used to and hard work...

PM me if u need to talk...
or come crap in the mushy gang

Ray87 SG

From what i understand, his not even bothered about you much less say he's into you. This guy deserve a kick in his arsh to realise that he has a nice gf who's willing to devote time for him.

His attitude towards you suggest to me that he doesnt feel attracted to you anymore, being with you may perhaps be an obligation or responsibility for him.