My dear, in life, people always react to two ways, that is the
way THEY WANT, and the way THEY NEED.. Your sister WANTS to spend
like a taitai, wants to buy stuffs in sales, want to have a
carefree life with no form of responsibities or obligation to
herself, her parents, you, let alone society. She wants money,
things to be always so easy and readymade, but the reason for her
being this way, is cos there is NO NEED on her part. You and all
the rest have been spoonfeeding her all these years and fulfilling
every single aspect of her needs, regardless of how unnecessary or
extravagant those may be. Given a choice between opening her mouth
and asking for favours, and working her socks off, of course she
would choose the former. You have to understand, that not everybody
is born with a sensiblity that its the duty of the children to
provide for their parents, as singaporeans to do their part for
society and the less fortunate. Your sister is not being realistic.
She's living in her own world, where she gets things done her way,
and always procrastinating cos there's no goals in her life, no
ideals, no direction. Have you ever had a talk with her, and ask
her what she exactly wants to do with her life? Does she want a
specific career? Talk to your parents, and tell them that she is on
her path to ruins if she doesnt change herself for the better, cos
they wouldnt be around forever to take care of her. Lastly, i think
you're a fantastic sister, and you certainly have done your part as
a sibling. We all admire and respect you for your efforts,
dedication and responsility, so please do without those guilt. Its
certainly no fault of yours that she turn out this way. Most
importantly, you have to remember that your PRIORITIES lies with
your IMMEDIATE FAMIILY, and please, do some savings on your own,
cos when the time comes for your kids to pursue their education,
your retirement, medical expenses, you know jolly well that you
have only yourself and your husband for support, cos that worthless
sister of yours cannot be rely upon. Take care and God Bless
!