I haven't even got into analytical evaluation. Ha.
Anyway my replies stated in orange.
Originally posted by Jean3:
Hi MC Square, Thanks for such a detail analysis u had given
to me.
My replies is as follows, sorry for the late reply.
And also, Thanks everyone for such giving such a good advice.
I am jus starting off with this
relationship for only a short period of one month plus, I am
thinking about all this because I feel that there is a need to set
the limit clear and not leave it unattended. Another reason why I
want to set it clear is because I had a feeling that thing might be
out of control if I dont set it clear before hand.
From my Observation I think he is
serious too. But knowing that man has their own needs, and that
there is a high possibility that he might had a problem keeping his
hand on himself, thus would like to know to what extend I should
set the limit till.
Honestly I dont really think I can accept the so call hand job at
this point in time, but simple kissing is still within my
acceptable range (PS: He didnt make any request for hand job so I
am safe). And to me hand job, is almost equal to sex.
But can I jus safely assume that in the norms, for bf to have more
right to place their hands on their gf? Well I am not referring to
the sensitive place, maybe jus maybe putting their hand on waist,
hips, etc
sound like I am from old mainland girl right, but I am
this conservative for no reason.
[b]It is of good intention for the
better of the relationship. I believe your present boyfriend will
be glad when he knows how well thought you are. Trying to protect
the relationship from straining maybe good. But You'll never know
unless both parties communicate.
Yes in fact, I think so too. But so far
our topic has not explicitly state the limit for sexual activities
be it the so call petting.
Honestly, I believe in giving in to
someone whom I will be marrying to, starting off in a relationship
to me mean giving an opportunity for each other to understand, know
and love each other more, before knowing whether both are suitable
for each other, to spend their life time with. But of course
meanwhile within this period of being together, not everyone can
end up in a marriage. Thus, I dont wish to give in. .
Your view is respected. So
now, it's his turn to hear this
If I say no all the way, I think he will
be unhappy. It could mean I am not committed to this relationship
too. I dont fear sex, but I take it as a very angelic act of union
between the two person.
To be honest, I dont like to view my bf as being too sensational
or sexy, because that would rather bringg me the thoughts of him as
being bad. I know this is not a correct thinking, but I sometimes
really cannot help it. And thus wanted to set the limit clear, but
something are not able to be this clear like black and white
right?
I believe you're a lady who
knows what you want and why you do.
Live by it and stand by this values.
By the way MC Sq, are you a lady? Thanks a lot for such a gd
analysis!
Long time since anyone asked
for my gender! I'm flattered.
[/b]
Conclusion.
Two person can maintain love without getting to sexual
issues.
Physical expression are normal affectionates shown between
couples.
Learn to enjoy and hold your values.
Cheers
