I do agree that definition of love can change as one ages.
Perhaps it's has not really being change, but better define and in
finer details
What is your definition of
love?
In my 10-20's -
Love is a feeling.
Love is eternal, it's pure. Looking at a girls, doing silly things
for her without her knowing. Like taking the same bus home with her
even if it mean walking 15-30 mins more everyday, just to feel
close to her and be with her just every minute you can.
Does not matter whether she knows or not.
Love should be eternal, and should last forever. Even if the person
does not love you, you should still always be there for her.
In my 20-30's
Love is a feeling.
Still doing silly things for her, and making her happy. Giving her
surprises and let her know that you care about how she feels.
Caring for her and always be there for her especially when she
feels down.
Does not matter if she does the same thing for me, as long as she
is happy.
Love should still be eternal, and people in love should get married
and stay together forever. It will be great if they could still be
holding hands when they get old and talking a stroll in the park
never mind that they might not be able to hear each other very
well.
Now in my 30's
Love is a feeling.
Doing silly things that could surprise her and make her day, bring
that little smile on her face, and brightens up her day. At times,
even if could not cheer her up, always be there for her when she
feels down, even if not physically, thru' voice, sms or whatever
method, let her know that she is and will never be along.
It does matter if she appreciates what I do for her, and would be
happy if she can do certain things to show that she loves me. Not
the same amount, at least she should understand how I feel and
shows me the concern. Appreciate the synergy of a Love Bank. Each
of us have one, and few can just carry on giving and giving without
expectation of being appreciated and love. By just giving and
giving, you will find yourself drain out and empty. There's a limit
to every in the extend they can give, but to give forever without
anything in return on a long run is not feasible. When one party in
a marriage becomes too complacent or take things for granted,
that's when the other will feel very drained out.
Love should be eternal, but both should always be in constant
communication with each other feelings and grow together. It's an
effort that is required from both party to have both to grow as
one, at least in certain area, and not just kids and house.
If not it feelings will soon be degraded to responsibility
rather then feelings. It takes a lot of communication, and
at the same time, the frequency of the two person will have to be
quite the same or at least open to views, as when both grow, there
will be bound to be areas that they will view differently due to
the different things they went thru'. The emotional and spiritual
connection is very important for keeping the feeling and let it
goes on.
What do you look out for when
looking in a partner?
Openness to views and ways of looking at things.
Think and talk in similiar frequencies.
Have certain common areas of interest.
