A need
for psychological and emotional satisfaction.
Being in Love by itself produce a chemical called PEA that is
released by the brain, which the body reacts and showed signs
through sweaty palms, increase heart beat, butterfly stomach, etc -
all signs of being in love (Especially Love at First Sight or LAFS
for short). At the same time, a overall feeling of happiness and
contentment is felt as well.
In psychology, we always work to achieve the same positive result
as we did previously. Say, if getting 100 marks for spelling earned
me praises from my parents, which made me feel good about my
ability, esteem and confidence, I would do what it takes to repeat
that behaviour, in turn, repeat the same positive experience I
would incur.
CloUdiSm states that all relationship moved through a general cycle
- although not ALL moved the same directions, but generally, most
followed through this system: Honeymoon-growth-stagnant-declining.
Some begins from a negative score, going through stagnation before
honeymoon, etc. The possibilities are endless, however, it is
almost guaranteed, that somewhere within the relationship, one
would experience a short/decent frame of time involving Honeymoon
period.
This is THE golden age of a relationship - where personality
conflicts and problems are working its way to the cracks of the
surface, revealing its ugly nature. But before that could take
place, we are happily above it, revelling in total
blissfulness.
***
Being in Love or with the person?
It depends on
ignorant innocence or knowledge.
If we talk about repeating our positive experience, being in Love,
gives you an self actualization... the reason of existance. A good
relationship keep the body, mind and heart stable, healthy and an
overall wellness. If we venture deeper, being in Love fulfilled a
portion of what the soul needs - the reunification of your 'other
half'. These are the unseen reasons why human continue to seek
Love, for there are NO known substitute... a monopolised
market.
Love, by itself,
is a simple and pure, just like our Love for our pets, while
knowledge paints us the colours in our
relationship.
And because knowledge grant us colourful picturesque as we gain
knowledge through communication, we see all sides of our Love. It
is unlike the Love of our pets, for we are unable to commuicate
with them verbally and Love is kept as it is - Love and Simple, for
there isn't anymore sides. Fullstop.
By knowing more about our Love, in turn, OURSELVES - do we think
that Love has gone complicated and no longer functioning the way it
used to be?
Or are we deluding ourselves, thinking that it is better to Love
without knowledge than to earn those colours and strive to bring
out those colours to its fullest potential?
We LOVE because we desire to see ourselves in our own portray,
drawing our own pictures with glisters and colours... learning the
better combination of two separate paints put together... learning
WHAT will work and what don't... learning that the Sun isn't
painted as black and WHY... and the list goes on forever because we
are eternal students of Cupid.
We Love because
we want to learn more about ourselves... the angle where the mirror
never reveal to us.
It is the knowledge that we seek. 
Cheers
