The invitation has surfaced

last SG · 2005-08-29T13:34:31+00:00

Cool by Gwen Stefani It's hard to remember how it felt before Now I found the love of my life... Passes things get more comfortable Everything is going righ...

ToffeeClub1929 SG

My first topic in AA, and I believe this question has been asked so many times but just want to ask again.

Just received in my letter box today, the invitation card that I have been dreading all these while. Neutral

The invitation to my ex gf's wedding.

This is where the problem arise, should I go or not, and if yes, should I go alone? Sad

Need advice

Confused ToffeeClub1929

Fatum SG

depends on your relationship with your ex i suppose

The man who was death SG

just send ur present there can liao and depends on whether ur ex really want u there or not

ToffeeClub1929 SG

We "grew up together"

We seen each other mature from teenagers to adulthood, she from girl to a lady and me from a guy to a man (cannot be verified though). Surpported each other through the thin and thick. Cried and laughed together we did.

She waited for me as I served my NS and together we went overseas to study. That was when hell broke loose.

Sad Sad Sad

FireIce SG

if u are uncomfortable then dun go
send a gift

Gedanken SG

What’s the status of your relationship now? Are you still close friends, or has what happened overseas created a rift between you?

rainee SG

Go if you have let go, and you can bear seeing her kiss another man, behaving intimately with him, with everyone around them wishing them happiness for their entire lifetime together...

Don't go if you still have feelings for her, as in you are still hurting from the separation, if you can't bear to see her walk away with another man, if you can't bear the thoughts that the bridegroom is not you...

ToffeeClub1929 SG

Did I ask my friends and was surprised by the advice

Guys: Don't go unless you bring a more chio gal with u

Girls: Go lah, nothing wrong, prove that you have moved on

Sad

meltz SG

if she send u a invitation card mean .. she still treat u as frenz ...

so nw has to depend on u .. whether u want to go anot ...

send her a gift for the wedding is definately a must ....

Deportivo SG

can you describe what happened? just want to know who was at fault then.

ToffeeClub1929 SG

I have never been able to be close friends with my exs...

Very difficult for me, the occasional phone calls here and there

I was not informed of the ROM, and was the last one to find out.

Fatum SG

well, go ! ... and wish her well .....
that's the least you can do ... be happy for her ....

unless you think there are residual feelings lingering on her side ....
if so keep away and leave her in peace ..

ToffeeClub1929 SG

Me took drugs there and then.

Sad Sad Sad

No need to say I also know my fault

Camellias4me SG

She used to be the most beloved woman in ur life. Though things didn't work out, there's no need to turn "stranger" rite?. For men, maybe its abt bruised ego. But for her, she would really like to have ur blessings. U played an important part in her life.
Go lah.. be gracious! Invite her & her hubby when its ur turn next time. Smile

ToffeeClub1929 SG

Yeah, you are right about the bruised ego thingy... guys just need that "face" sometimes

choco B SG

Uhm... so, what is your intention out of all this? To show her that you've moved on, or?

Camellias4me SG

That "face" will be saved if u can turn up on her wedding nite, giving her ur sincere blessings, show her dat u'r doing gd urself after since.
This move will only do gd for the "friendship".. unless u decide dat ur "face" (bruised ego) matters more than her lifetime happiness. Question

charlize SG

You only need to remember one piece of advice when you attend her wedding.

The free flow of alcohol is for everybody except you.

Really. Laughing

silv3rgal SG

Well... i believe you should really get over your ex... in that case if you go and witness her marriage with ur own eyes.. maybe you'll be able to get over her and move on??? what that doesn't kill you makes you stronger : )

Since she's really sincere on inviting you, maybe you should just give her a lil' face... and... don't forget to bring a gal along..hehehe... Laughing

ToffeeClub1929 SG

No beer, wine or Martell??!!!

How to wash down those rubbery jellyfish and overfried chicken meat

That why sometimes I love weddings Very Happy

Alcohol...hmmm