Is a guy who uses verbal abuse on his gf, worth holding on? Many
times, i have been verbally abused whenever we argued with each
other even over the slightest things. We quarrel almost anything
under the sun and moon. I am sick and tired of the way he treats me
when he loses his temper not because its my fault, you know it
takes 2 hands to clap, but sometimes he gets really over sensitive
and just simply never learned to close one eye on puny matters. He
always thinks he is in the right even though he is really in the
wrong. I am really sick and tired to have to keep forgiving him and
is it true that promises are meant to be broken? Just because I can
everytime stomach every mean things he said to me, that he can take
it for granted? We've been together for almost 5years and I'm his
first girlfriend.
After the argument, often he would apologized and always giving me
'broken' promises that he will not use vulgarities on me anymore.
Time and time again, I would just forgive him since because I still
love him. People tend to change over the years, either for the
better or for the worse. His attitude changed for the worse,
definitely and if you asked me if I am still happy with this
relationship, I'll say a Yes and a No. He still does shower me with
love and care and i do feel pampered. He often talked to me about
our future and what he wants the best for us. He impressed me with
his matured and future insights. Now, looking back I am so worried
and a little afraid to spend my life with him because I do not want
my husband to talk to me that way. It is really hard to change a
leopard's spot, right? If he can treat me like this now, what would be the future? His
temper and attitude is getting out of hand, but I can say that I am
numbed already because I used to cry so much and even resort to
using pen knife to inflict the pain on body.. but not anymore now..
coz i know It's not worth it.
My friends used to tell me he is not good enough for me in terms of
looks. But why should I care? I love him for who he is and not what
he is. He does has his own good points like always putting himself
into other's shoes, sensitive(but too much can really kill me), and
he is filial to his parents(family orientated, husband type of
material) and etc, which i see most young guys nowadays lack in
these qualities. If a guy really loves his gf, he shouldn't even be
using vulgarities in the first place right? When my guy friends
tell me that I should let go of this relationship and wait for
someone better, someone who treasures me more. Because if he treats
me this way, that means he is not afraid to lose me right? But on
the other hand, he is so protective yet loving, he doesnt likes
guys to stare at me. Whenever other guys are looking at me, he will
give stare back at them and give the "DONT-FCUKING-STARE-AT-MY-GF"
attitude, which can be quite undesirable especially in the public
and we will end up quarrelling because of 'they staring at me and
because I wear too revealing clothes which I don't think it is all
that revealing 
I will be so
embarrased and sad He's serving the nation now and next
year would be his last year. My friends told me that if he is still
in the army he should even treasure me more? I think any other
normal girlfriends will not stand his boyfriend mistreating her
right? Moreover, he is doing national service now. I do have guy
friends who like me, but I know my limits. He is not romantic i
dont mind but I prefer my boyfriend to be romantic. I dont know
what I want 
Perhaps, I should be contented
with what I have
Can you guys tell me what is true love? To me, true love is also
about accepting your partner's flaws, but he sees it otherwise. He
thinks that if you love him/her, you should try to change yourself
for the better. Well, thats true. I did try my best to change for
the better. I hate it so much when he keep asking me to change my
attitude when we quarrel. I mean who doesnt gets furious and
sarcastic with his remarks when one is angry? I admit when i get
really angry, I would be really sarcastic but more often that not I
will try not to argue with him and stomach his temper towards me
Please give me some advice on what I should do or should not do. It
will be greatly appreciated.
