Yes, love can be nurtured, but right now you may be bugging her
to the extent of pissing her off. To put it bluntly, it seems she
may not be interested in you or attracted to you, but does not want
to hurt you with a point blank rejection.
If you have to love someone deeply in order to begin a relationship
with him or her, then many couples wouldn't even come together in
the first place.
Help yourself first, be a friend. Don't push it. Bide your
time.
Don't think you could ever be 'just a friend' to her? Better let go
then.
