Career or woman?

last SG · 2005-08-04T10:28:13+00:00

The answer to this question is another question: Do you work to live or live to work? When you've got that, then you've got your answer.

soulness SG

normally if a guy troubled, we say taht there are only 2 possibilities

its either regarding (i)career/money or (ii)woman/relationship

so which one do u think is more important to u? why?

one of my fren once told me that guy can only be troubled by career matters not girls.. if ur gfs/wives is givng u problem then its an indication that the relationship is not healthy. in order not to allow it to afffect ur career, u shld come out of the relationship and proceed to the next girl..

sound abit mcp right? haha well wat u ppl think? share some of ur thougth here pls Smile

OldAhPek SG

the girl i love most is more important. Forget those sayings ‘nu ren ru yi fu’(woman as clothes). Can always look for other jobs

starblue SG

guys should always concentrate on their career... but i wouldn;t like my guy to always concentrate on his career.. i know i know... capricious women huh?? Mr. Green

M©+square SG

Rare sight.
Interesting. Mr. Green

FeowFeow SG

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Mao x 2 SG

Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked

Kenashi SG

Shocked
so exp.!!
U running professional dating agency huh Laughing

Kenashi SG

when u don't have a stable job, nu ren ju hui ba ni dan yi fu Laughing
use n throw

FeowFeow SG

Got reason lah:

The fees decrease with the increasing no. of dates, because of the security after the 3rd date. More likely will get matchmaking angpow Razz

Eh eh eh, professional dating agency is my SIDELINE, canNot anyhow anyhow tell people Razz

FeowFeow

Kenashi SG

got bao jia huh
Laughing if the couple cannot click, will guarantee to find someone that will?

Deportivo SG

it is possible to strike a balance between career and woman, but it is a very intensive period where it often either breaks the relationship or wreck the career.

i chosed career first and i do regret a little because i lost my first fiance.

organization SG

For me, i go for career or making money as my first priority judging on the situation around me... i won't elaborate further due to privacy. Next, for girlfriend or marriage, it will always be secondary to me. Of course, i would remain good friend with her for good or bad due to my concern for her. Like always, i hope she can find a better person who can provide for her. However, i will take a good look before approving of it if she allows. In any case, singaporean women always have a mind of their own. Somehow or rather, i'm not sure if it is a good or a bad sign. My apology to digress from the topic... Back to the main topic, i believe in singapore that if u were to provide a comfortable or a decent lifestyle to u or to any of ur loved one , u got to learn or know how to make money. In other words, building ur career is a primary concern to any male in singapore.
All the best!!! Wink

BillyBong SG

There is no answer to this question.

dragg SG

i have neither.

Crying or Very sad

Gazelle SG

It really depend on your age. As you get older, career will be more important. No Money, No Honey!! If you are still a school kid, GF will be more important cause your sex drive is at its peak!! Laughing

FeowFeow SG

Can, you don't like this particular girl, then you reject after 1st date lorr! Then when we find another that's your match, we'll send both of you on dates, but the prices to be paid start from the beginning again lorr! Razz

To save more, go on more dates Razz

The closer you are to the matchmaking angpow, the cheaper our rates Razz

After you marry her, you don't need to pay already Razz

FeowFeow

Yunhaier SG

Everything is integrated into matters of Love, directly or indirectly, but how much priority and percentage it stands, it depends largely on the individual. Some people cannot 'survive' very long without some form of relationship - especially Libra. Some people can probably sacrifice alot of their relationship, for good or ill, especially Pisces. And the list goes on.

I feel that the emphasise on money in Singapore is kinda OVER-emphasise.

Don't get me wrong, money IS indeed an important aspect in a relationship. But somehow man have this biased preception that with money and car, everything just come smoothly or easily.

This is a load of bullsh!t.

And very often, you read the papers and probably hear stories from your friends: couples fighting over wealth and over their falling marriage. This happens even to people who ain't very rich. I am so sure of this: generally, these people do hold such mindsets in their definition - the overly materialistic views on love. Marriage fails for MANY reasons, but for wealth wrestle and tussle, it makes you wonder is it for love or money.

You see, guys who don't have much wealth to sell themselves to potential gf/wife KNOWS that they ain't rich and if the ladies are materialistic themselves, they wouldn't end up with them. There are few exceptions to this (regarding materialistic wife/gf and poor guy): very common scenario includes

I) Dating since school days - reality makes a person evolve, when one steps into society.

II) Marriage that are NOT based on love - many thingy falls under this category. Shotgun... paid foreign bride, etc.

Because 'poor guys' are poor, they make-up for the lack of wealth by being more loving and all positive aspects in a relationship, while those who revel in overly-materialistic views on love tends to substitute wealth for love, affection and all positive aspects in a relationship. (A rich guy probably have no qualms about spending big money to buy expensive gifts, treats and such - but is every girl looking for such extravagant enjoyment? Taurus, Capricorn and Virgo probably yes. And having a scenario to say sorry probably equal to a Tiffany ring, flowers and everything. Meaningless when you substitute material things for behavior and actions that needs no pricetag. It's definitely a useful tool, but guy with wealth tends to depend on it so much, that it will have declining impact with more similar usage).

Poor guys (inclusive of self proclaim ones) needs that shang jing xin - someone who has goal, works towards them and achieve it gradually. When your motivation to succeed in life and career is driven by love's desire, you will find yourself doing better. You may not earn a five figure monthly sum, but it makes meaning to the existence of your relationship, constantly warding off the challenges put forth and I am sure with all the efforts and correct mindsets, you will survive decently, financially. Do you know how powerful your mind, heart and soul put together is? I was taught by a few gurus when I was very young (Late Primary) and I seen how powerful this combination will transform a human. Guys with shang jing xin are very charming, however, sad to say, a general group of 'poor guys', who doesn't have this quality, laments and blame that it is because they are 'poor', thus the reason for their current state.

Again, excuse or seriously the ultimate truth? Question

Remember the message you are sending your Love is not wealth - it's how you are working for your relationship - the effort input. I remember my ex-marketing lecturer used to tell me 'People don't buy products, people buy benefits.' I don't understand what he meant until much later - E.g. when you are hungry, at home and all the food stores are quite a distance away from you, you will probably call Pizza Hut or any delivery service NOT because you want to eat their food, rather you buy the quality of 'Convenience'. It makes sense because it is relevant.

P.S: When you put relevance in Love, it makes your relationship invincible because you harmonized it with reality and love's idealogy & belief. You know and do what's working for your relationship and you bring out the 'Giving' element to it's fullest. Idea

Cheers

tritonyeah666 SG

Your analysis is so flawed it irks me. First of all, basing people's personality on their horoscopes is a stereotype which is bound to be inaccurate. The rest i guess are pretty obvious. Nuff said Razz

Yunhaier SG

Interesting.

I merely mention signs that are, in my studies, whatever related to what I wanted to bring out. I always add it as part of my analysis, of course, if you are here long enough you would have probably know. Everything still stands even if you were to remove these astrological thingy.

You don't have to tell me that horoscope by itself ain't accurate without the forecasting of birth chart (if you know what is it in the first place); i know. (Seriously astrology isn't like what you read in the newspaper/magazine, which I am so sure you are thinking in that direction. I don't blame for this thinking because media is screwing the REAL astrology so badly, especially since most folks don't know anything beyond that). It is merely included for interesting sake, not for absolute sake.

You are free to disagree.

And not to move too far from the topic starter - probably you may like to state your views on this topic? Question

Cheers

Devil1976 SG

Cool