Sigh, deep remorse but no regrets

FaithGuy SG · 2005-08-01T01:03:22+00:00

Be glad that you and 'A' are getting along well... Sometimes you just can't get the best of both worlds... If 'B' is to insist on her mentality, there's not...

FaithGuy SG

Hi guys,

I dont know how to describe this kind of feeling , its sickening , hurts, pain and struck to the bone.

I fall in love with girl A . A rejected first time but shown interest over time because i didnt give up . sounds like a perfect fairytale love story ???

Just when this perfect love story begins, girl B steps into the whole game, girl B likes me , girl A knew girl B's intention ( they are good friends ).

Finally, girl A agrees .

I re-instated my stand to A I doesnt like B and i will definitely love A . I indirectly hinted B i am going after A . B , isnt very happy , i can sense that .
I told A all about it . A is in a dilemma whether this relationship should be continued.

NOW , WHAT DID I DO WRONG ??? I really feel like taking a knife and stab myself . There is no perfect path to choose , did i choose the wrong path ?
I knew from the start if something like this happen, one of 3 has to give up.....

i need solid and concrete advice.

the Bear SG

so.. you like A, and A likes you...

what the heck has this got to do with B?

even if B likes you, you have no interest in her, so that's the end of it...

i don't see any problems...

A should think for herself once in a while... is she going to make a decision without a very important person? YOU?

heck! if B is a really good friend, she'd be happy for A, and not be unhappy...

go on, woo A... love her with all your might... make her happy... and let her be happy of her decision to open her heart for you...

good luck! Very Happy

M©+square SG

Solid and concrete? No such thing, in this case.

My question: Are you the decision maker?

Now you're not in any position to choose any paths, even though you can but it will still end up on the wrong side.
Lose Lose situation.

A is the one who is going to consider very carefully about this.
So it's either you or B is going to influence her choice.

Just do what you should do. You'll never know what the outcome will be.

Solid advice could only be given when a situation have happened.

Cheers

Yunhaier SG

Why must both of you open a path to include someone else into picture?

You like your woman and your woman as well - why must you two account for SOMEBODY else? Isn't love between two? You think it's some kind of love triangle - in a matter of factly, it isn't - it only becomes when you allow that to happen.

If you wanna seek for your own personal happiness, the last thing you ought to do is to consider the whole world as part of your package. You will never be able to please everyone and circumstances will force you to make a decision... SO choose something sensible... something that you desire and wouldn't regret in years to come.

One of the three has to give up? Isn't it obvious who would that be? SINCE WHEN IS SHE PART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP? It seemed that your woman didn't exactly fall very deep in love with you; she seemed to be merely giving you and this relationship a chance, thus the befuddlement when a completely nonsensical scenario, which shouldn't have affected either one of you, crop up.

P.S: Love well and maintain your grounds strongly. Do not always think that every single thing in love is complication - it isn't. Idea

Cheers

Deportivo SG

go on with A, go underground with B. best of both worlds.

but on the serious note, the ball is really in your court. It seems that you are the one who is ficker-minded between A and B.

FaithGuy SG

pardon me for being direct and harsh here . I want to stake my stand!

I have NO FEELING FOR B and NEITHER DO I WANT TO GO UNDERGROUND WITH B . I ONLY LIKE A .

browniebaobao SG

they are gd frens. sure will hurt somebody.

Kimosabe SG

Then B's a dope if she doesn't understand that you're happy with A. Besides, if they are friends, B should be mature about things and be happy that you and A found each other. You didn't do anything wrong. You're only wrong if you have any intention to cheat on A with B. Glad to know you don't. Take it easy buddy... totally know how you feel Mr. Green

drx SG

if B cannot get the hint then kiss A in front of B.

If like that still cannot get it then no hope for B liao.

Since you say u love A so much then prove it by going up to B and say you do not love her. Got to be a man when it comes to love. How do you expect A to be with you when you cannot even settle such a small case?

A girl expects a guy to led in a relationship and A is hoping for you to settle the problem.

starblue SG

guys, guys.. i think the one who need advice is not him.. it's girl A. if i were girl A, i'd be in a dilemma also.. just imagine your best friend likes the same guy as you.. no matter how much you like the guy, you'd be a bit hesitant mah.. especially if you're a decent, kind girl like myself.. Mr. Green

so, give your girl A some time. tell her that even if she doesn't go out with you, you will also not go out with B. she'll have to overcome it herself. and don't have anything to do with girl B during this time.

heavenlyfire SG

so...to girls out there. "never show your bf-to-be to your friends.."

and 1 advise..go for first choice, i see the decision does not lies in you now, sound A out, i assume she must be the type that will give you up rather than give her friend up.

talk to B nicely, tell her that you likes only A, hope she withdraw, otherwise you may may up lossing A as friend as well.

Devil1976 SG

You've got some CONVINCINGS to do.

1st and foremost important, let 'A' understand that love cannot be forced and it shouldn't be denied. Let her know that you love her and get her to accept you. Let her know that you have no interest in 'B'.

2nd, let 'B' understand that love cannot be forced. Let her know that you really love 'A'. Tell her that love shouldn't be selfish. You're sorry for your decision but you hope she would wish you well in your relationship instead.

'A' is the crucial character to be convinced here. If you can't convince 'B', then just go along with 'A'.... Spend more time with 'A' not only of both your own world but also infront of friends... Especially B's and A's.... REMEMBER. That is only if ABOVE FAILS....

mahai102 SG

give me b's phone number. i'll call her & convince her to let me screw the daylights out of her.

give me a's phone number too as back-up.

if by shagging b first doesn't change her mind about you, i'll shag a till she looks as haggard as a dog.

after shagging a & b, i'll let you have my report on who makes a better gf...

pm me as soon as possible...

Very Happy

Magnus SG

Maybe A send B to test you. Twisted Evil

Seriously, if 'A' and 'B' are 'good friends', and 'A' doesn't mind 'B' having interest in you, i think 'A' does not love you enough (that is, if there's really love).

The situation whereby you like 'A' is similar to how 'B' like you. All one-way.

Come to think of it, when you said " 'A' rejected first time but shown interest over time because i didnt give up". I doubted that she really accept you whole heartedly.

FaithGuy SG

I was amazed and suprised by all the AA members here, all of you are experienced in handling such matters !

That's what I did , i turn B down , I dun think that A send B to test me , its impossibe .....I persistently told A that I only like A and no one else, there is a crucial point that A want to breakup because she felt terribly sorry to her good friend, she broke down in front of me, I swear I felt panick, scared, worried, pain when she broke down , this is the first time she cried in front of me .......I was really sad ....

I managed to talk A out and we continued. I am not going to let go...I am firm...

those who haven't got into this kind of situation will not know the feeling , I swear this kind of triangular affair is no joke , it will severely hurt every1 ...

M©+square SG

I understand.

You should be firm, but really take care. There could be repercussions.

Cheers

NoTimeToWaitAr SG

Originally posted by FaithGuy:

I fall in love with girl A . A [b]rejected first time but shown interest over time because i didnt give up . sounds like a perfect fairytale love story ???

Just when this perfect love story begins, girl B steps into the whole game, girl B likes me , girl A knew girl B's intention ( they are good friends ).

Finally, girl A agrees .

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hmm.. muz Q the intention of A.... how come she agree when she knows B likes u.... hmm... muz Q....

Devil1976 SG

Why not...? Rolling Eyes

FaithGuy SG

B's good friend circulating the issue.....
I am worried things are not within my control...

FaithGuy SG

i ask B out for dinner as i own her a favour but she reject defensively....
I dunno , i feel i should have a talk with her....but i think she is avoiding me ...

A and myself dont want to lose a friend because of a relationship ...
I dunno what to do ...dire straits ...at crossroads

Solid advice needed , please