Dear Rammstein619,
Before I start, I need to remind you that if you request readers
here to have the mindset of 17-year-olds, you'll get replies like
17-year-olds, & Not well thought out answers from people who've
experienced more *smiles* 
This is going to sound harsh, but think of it as an auntie, erm,
sorry, old sister (I still like to think I'm Not THAT old, alas)
advising you, & she means well.
Your ex sounds like she has better sense than you, for the 2
reasons stated below:
1. She has her perogatives right. Studies at this age come 1st, No
matter what kinda relationships you get into at this age, it's, in
most cases, a learning process, & although some last till
marriage, Not all do. Putting her studies 1st ensures that she
won't disappoint her parents, & upon graduation, there'll be
some doors open to her when she's looking for a job as a fresh
grad. Pragmatism, in the right circumstances, is beneficial.
2. She knows that No matter how angry you are with someone,
swearing at him/her in his/her face is bad etiquette & rude.
She sounds refined for someone in her teens. She also knows what
kinda repercussions there may be if that someone you're cussing at
has the mind of a boor, i.e. you could get in deep shiet, young
man.
Granted, she doesn't know how to let you down gently when she wants
to break up, but that is understandable, given her age.
Before you want to initiate a patch-up with her, perhaps you should
1st look within yourself, know your faults, & try to correct
them before asking for another chance.
FeowFeow
Originally posted by rammstein619:
Before I start , I would like you all to be in the mind of
a 17 year old teen who knows nuts about being in a
relationship...
It all started when for 2 weeks she did not contact me. Apparently
she did not top up her hicard. She did not tell me anything about
being "away" for quite sometime. So obviously I was freaking
worried. I told myself to calm down which I evantually did for the
first week , come the 2nd week of communicardo , paranoia somehow
took control of me. I just could not contact her in anyway possible
(Her parents would kill me if I called her house). So when I
finally managed to contact her through by calling her home and
asked her what happened , she said that she was bombarded by school
projects and has no time to contact me , let alone even top up her
hicard. Then she said she wanna break because she wanted to
concentrate on her studies. I was hesitant at first but eventually
gave in because I respected her decision....
2 weeks later , I got a sms from her. She asked whether we could
talk on the phone and so we did. She started being hostile towards
me for whatever reason she had. She's always picking on events
which happened to me and make it into a big matter. For example , I
hated my ex manager who screwed me upside down for not serving the
prawn sauce at a wedding function ( I was working part time banquet
at that time). I hated him to the core and as such , I often cursed
and sweared at him in front of my friends. Such a matter like this
, she would say I don't know how to face challenges and
stuff..saying I'm inmature for saying profanities at my ex boss
blar blar blar. I mean , it's my own personal problem , it has
nothing to do with her. She just wanted to find fault with my own
personal problems at that point in time. She also said that [b]SHE
TOLD ME THAT SHE WOULD NOT ABLE TO CONTACT ME FOR A FEW WEEKS AS
SHE HAS LOTS OF PROJECTS TO DO but the thing here is that
I swear I don't remember she telling me anything about her not
being able to contact me because of her projects. Then she come and
say I don't respect her decision concerning her studies because I
told her before we were together that studies are important blar
blar blar. But she did not tell me anything about she being super
busy with her projects so much so that she could not contact me for
a few weeks. So how was I suppose to know that she was bombarded by
her school projects.
Throughout the entire conversation , she was finding faults with my
own personal problems and shouting at me at the same time. I though
maybe she freaking stress with her projects that she wants to vent
her frustration at me. Now that I don't mind because I found out
her true colours and went through some rough times before we ended
up together. I did not go looking for another girl just because I
found out that she can be hot tempered at times but just decided to
love her for what she really is. I mean no one is perfect ,
everyone has flaws and I accepted her for what she really is.
Seriously I don't mind she venting her frustrations on me instead
of venting it on someone else which might get into trouble.
The thing here is , 3 months on and she's still the same , well
according to her friend.
So is it possible given the necessary circumstances for us to be
together again? I'm not asking for us to patch up immediately but
rather start off a fresh as friends again before proceeding on to
the next level....
I admit some of my acts may seem immature or stupid in a sense but
then again , It's a learning process in life..... [/b]
