Am I like the rubber man from Fantastic 4???

Seventh_Son SG

I remembered that sometimes ago I posted something which was about a lousy thread about being attitude and things like that.

Okay...here goes my story. This girl who joined my department for around 1 month. Still a fresh graduate and started working since last July. My first impression of her was like...."All girls are almost the same" and why should I give her or the rest of the new comers a heck?

But slowly, things changed and my impression of her also changed. Went for a department gathering drinking session. Got the chance to talk to her for like an hour or 2. Found out some of her interest as in the kind of music and things like that. Well, her background and everything is about the same as I am.

Halfway through the drinking session, I was having a headache and wanted to leave early for him. And at the same time she too had the intention of going home early. So both of us walked to the nearest MRT. Although I wanted to hail a cab and send her home but she refused and said that train is good enough and its still early. So I just get on the same train as her but never sent her home.

I did give her a call when I reached my destination just to make sure that she is safe and sound home. That was the least i could do.

Well, I don't know? Sudddenly I kept talking about her with my other male colleages and things like that. So I came up with the oldest trick and the lamest trick. To pretend that I sms the wrong person.

I SMS her...Hey John(One of my collueage) do not forget about the dinner tonight at 7 pm. And she replied, I am XXXX I think u got the wrong person.

And so I replied...ohhh sorry got the wrong person. I am XXXX. And her replied was " Ohh so u meeting John for dinner ah? Enjoy your dinner ...

Well, the next day I saw her and she came to me and said Hello to me while i was walking to office. I was totally shocked and do not know what to say to her when I saw her and my heart was jumping soooo damn fast. And almost spill out about the sms thingy. Oh my god! Why am I behaving like this???

I tend to think too much about the following..

1- She is a grad I am not (Well...will be on in few months time)
2- What if the rest of the people knows?
3- What if her boss knows that I am after her?
4- What if she is just friendly?
5- What if she rejects me and we are still in the same office?
6- We are like kind of from different world?

Am I thinking too much? Sometimes the feeling of racing heart and the feeling of liking someone do not come that easily. As for me its been one whole year since I have felt this. So I do not know what should I really do about this right now man?

I remembered from the Fantastic 4 movie...the Invisible girl was telling the rubber man. "THE PROBLEM WITH YOU IS THAT YOU THINK TOO MUCH AND THERE IS NO ACTION FROM YOU"

margarita SG

enjoy the feeling .. while wait n c whether the feeling last .. n dun worry she's a grad n u r not .. grad won't eat u up n its non of other people's business Wink

starblue SG

not a good idea to jump into such things, especially when you work at the same office. hang around her more. drop certain not-so-obvious hints. see how she reacts. and dun worry about her not seeing the hints, cos gals usually do. if she pretend she never see, well.... you should just bend yourself around the corner and look for another heart-racing. Wink

drx SG

Gerenal rule in dating try not to date someone in your office.

Reason is that once you break up with the person it will be hard to work with the person.

Patrik SG

If u think she is the right one,go for it.

heavenlyfire SG

yes, you don eat and shit at the same place, but if you decided to take a gamble, please go on. there are successful example of office romance. only act when you receive hints from her.

the next minute, you will be asking, what hints are consider obvious? There are many type, but the most obvious one is that she keep peeping at you if she likes you.

Seventh_Son SG

I know, its not a good idea especially we are in the same office. I have think about this too. Weather is it a good idea to start off something or just leave it as it is???
Not saying that she will like me for sure or anything like that.

Hints.....still thinking of what kind of hints to tell her?

Devil1976 SG

What are the chances which you think you might have now?

If you think time is ripe... How about asking her out on a date? Reveal the programme to her as a romantic dinner or something... Her answer should pretty much tell on how she feel between you and her..?

Seventh_Son SG

Frankly speaking, I do not know the chances?

Ok.. I tried sending her a goodnite SMS last nite. I don't expect a reply from her actually. But After around 10 mins I got her reply. And so we exchanged a few SMS before I went to bed and say goodnite to her. Ok I know this is nothing and it shows nothing. But at least for now, I have the reason to SMS her like as in a friend friend kinda of SMS.

As for asking her out for a dinner or something like that? Well, I think have to wait for sometime before I move in and start asking her out.

I know, this thing is kinda lame hahaha

rainee SG

The more you think about it, the more you won't do it Laughing

Seventh_Son SG

True, it make sense. The more I think the more I won't do it.
So sometimes it better not to think too much. But again, thinking is a important process. This is headache! haha Rolling Eyes

rainee SG

Think, make a decision, and stick to it instead of being wishy washy...then you will labelled as think too much Laughing

Thinking is not wrong, but everything needs to be done in moderation Wink

DriftingGuy SG

Yo bro i feel the exact same way too! We belong to the same All think, No Action group man .. gd luck Crying or Very sad

Seventh_Son SG

I think I tend to think too much about many things thats why I am stuck.
Sometimes really want to stop thinking so much and really do something. Sad

rainee SG

so just do it Laughing

Seventh_Son SG

Haha thanks! I will take it slowly and see how things go...

Devil1976 SG

As you yourself know, such smses could simply mean nothing at all?

So my 1st question for you is... "Are you contented with the way things are for now?"

"Is this what you want?"

If it is, I don't see the point of you posting much all over about this issue...?

If it isn't, what are you gonna do NEXT? Since you ain't just with her for a friend's sake.. What would you be doing to bring it to the NEXT level?

Think of something which can be carried out in actions...Then CARRY THEM OUT....

mahai102 SG

think so hard for what? show her your lanjiao lah...see got reaction or not...if she backs out screaming, you got your answer liao...

Laughing

lution SG

YES, YOU ARE THINKING TOO MUCH! and you are turning into a wussy in the process.