Kerotan got problem

last SG · 2005-07-20T11:37:53+00:00

fwah.. haha complicated case.. have u guys ever wonder this guy might be making all this out? i have a feeling its some bo liao guy making stories out in her...

Kerotan Frog SG

I hope you guys still remember me. it's about me and my underground gf. I can tell she loves me very very much. that scares me because i found her very processive and she gets jealous very easily when i told her my friend who is a female and immediately she ask long and short. She sms me everyday a few times and calls me everyday. all these i don't mind but what start to scares me is today when i told her "sandy (not real name), what if i fall in love with another girl and leave you?" she says she will kill herself to make me feel guilty for the rest of my life and she mean it when she stares at me. I am thinking if i had made a wrong choice being with her. Crying or Very sad

drx SG

I remember you. I also asked you to chose very carefully before going into a relationship with her. Since you say that you love her and willing to start something with her I thought the case was closed and everything was fine.
Seems that my worst fears came true.

Sadly is very hard for you to get out of it.

No need to worry will help you solve this problem.

Need to get some rest first cos I have just solved one case and badly in need of rest.

alexkusu SG

define what you mean by ‘underground gf’

gerrykoh SG

Are u having 2nd thoughts?
U want to break up with her?

M©+square SG

Expected that she's not easy to deal with.

If i'm not wrong, you're going to be in this for a long long time.
This thread will be studied closely.

Continue to post details.

Cheers

Yunhaier SG

You made your choice? You live with it?

AFterall, you kept emphasising that although she got no looks, but she is very 'nice' and treats you very well.

NICE personality huh?

Or nice BJ she gave you? Rolling Eyes

Dude... you choose to take on the problem wholeheartedly. What else can anyone says? What I said on, 22 June 05, 8.16 p.m, 23 June 05 12.40 a.m. and 1.21 a.m. still stand strongly, upon your topic 'help in my love problem' on 21 June. Idea

Cheers

starblue SG

i still think you're an Ashol. Rolling Eyes you deserve it, that's all i will say for you.

heavenlyfire SG

yes, frog...I still remember you.

so what are your plans? actually you cant blame her for feeling this way and acting this way..she feel insecured as you know, her looks. so that is why she resorted such actions.

she is afraid of lossing you, and i believe that she feel that any girl outside is better than her, so thus she can only feel better by acting this way.

There is no other way to solve this problem except by communicating more, and by ensuring her of your feelings towards her. Girls like her need alot of assurance, as she does not have much confidence.

in order to stop such unreasonable behavior, you can try talking to her how you feel by her actions and tell her that you feel restricted and so on...tell her that you feel very troubled and stress if she doesnt stop her unreasonable actions and if she really love you, she will give way, otherwise you might want to reconsider your stand again.

I have meet girls that demand their bf to cut off all platonic friendship with friends of the opposite sex by deleting away their female friend no and not allowing messages from them and other....but this things only go one way, meaning that the girl doesnt have to do that. Hence,I am not sure what is their thinking, if you are one of them can you please enlighten me on these actions.

Kerotan Frog SG

At first b4 i agreed to be her bf, she says she will even willing to close one eye if i have sex with another girl. but now is like she totally twist her words, not say i want to go out and play but she is just being unreasonable. now she says no women can touch you except me or else you going to get it. she change after we had sex a few times. Now if i date other girls and ditch her, i am very sure she will jump down from 10th storey. She is quite a tough one. any forumites got a way to ditch her without her killing herself?

she gets so jealous when i just talk to other girls and she will ask if I ever sleep with her before. I realised being with her really got pressure. don't feel happy lor but how to leave her? I am afraid she will do something silly. She knows my weak point too i get soft hearted when a girl cry that's why she sometimes she cry.

M©+square SG

got a way also won't tell you...yet.

You haven't learn your lesson.

Kerotan Frog SG

pls say k i can't just leave her for another girl she will really kill herself i tell u. she is starting to scare me.

starblue SG

you deserve it. or bi goot.

Kerotan Frog SG

be good how? she is being so unreasonable. btw, why u keep hitting on me?

M©+square SG

Ok. You don't have to explain how bad she is or how afraid and manupilated you feel.

Just come clean and be straightforward.
What is your next course of action. - What do you want now.

Cheers

heavenlyfire SG

first, how can another girl closed 1 eye when her bf eat outside? and you believe her?

second, i remember you say that you won have sex with her unless you want to marry her?or is it something similiar?

soft-hearted is not a weak point but a good one, she know how to make full use of it...hiaz...
what are her past relationship history? no of breakup? get ditched?info on past bf? how much do you know?mind telling?

Kerotan Frog SG

I want to tell her i wanna leave her because she is giving me too much pressure and she is controlling me too much. However, i hate to see her cry. few days ago, she ask me do i want a baby? so obvious she wants me to make her pregnant so she can control me for the rest of my life. I want to get out but i can't. if she really kills herself, i am really going to feel guilty for the rest of my life.

gerrykoh SG

U stupid xxxx, have your fun, now want to ditch her.
U should allay her fears by not being flirtatous. Girls need security.
If she knows u are faithful, she won't be so possessive.

M©+square SG

Take note that She's not a 'ordinary girl'.

Even he is faithful(which is never going to happen) she will still continue her works.

Cheers

Wolfwoof^^ SG

You pm me la..i teach you how to handle this. Smile

Ledikusa SG

Kero.. Firstly, stop having sex with her, stop all intimacy, deny any accusations from her, bring her out to more romantic places, stop using vulgar, stop trying to think that she is so sticky, try treating her a bit better, understand her more, talk to her more, listen to her more. You are just getting bored of this relation, and she is the opposite, she cherishs this relation more and more. Y? NOT becuz u r romantic, cuz u haf sex with her a few times le.. Hafing sex is more than a pleasure action, it is a form of bonding with another person, is just like a romantic date together, unforgettable.. Try to understand her more.. Think about it, do you really hate her that much? do you really like her that much? Clear your mind of all distractions, go to a beach or something, clear your thoughts.. And then start to think about your life.. Do you want it to go on like this? Can your consience take it? If you don’t want it to continue, tell her frankly, but since she’s more of a ruffian kind.. take it slowly, plan ur moves carefully.. I don’t know what will happen, but this is the advice i can give now.. You better consider wisely and make a wise choice.. don’t end up regretting everything.. =) But remember, humans are humans because they make mistakes, but every failure has a root to success.. TAke Care..