Stressful Working job scope

Nu^Ren SG

currently am working, in an office based surrounding. But things are Always not going smoothly on my side. Other party (other agencies/offices)forever not willing to co-operate & end up i m the one being blame in the company. To summarise everything, whenever things goes wrong, I am forever being the one to push blame, since i got no high post or pple to back me up.
They simply can't understand the rationale that one hand wun clap! How am i suppose to get things done without other party co-operating?
Then whenever things screwed up, i would be living in fear, waiting to hear or expect something from big boss. This kind of life is tiring & stressful.
Today is a good example. i get blamed for things that i have done but some axxhole accused me that i din do it!!!! I retaliate back to higher level. Then now higher level knows abt it but tilll now i received no news abt the update. have you ever felt this way too?
Sometimes really feel so unappreciate in the organisation. But i can't bear to leave my current job, cos of the good pay & benefits..

sgboy2004 SG

change job?

Nu^Ren SG

Boy boy, its hard to change a job nowadays. Jobs are not so easy to find as before. 10 monks are fighting for a bowl of porridge u see.... Crying or Very sad

dragg SG

i am a living example.

i resigned from my job late 2003 as i was unhappy with my GM .

i am still unemployed now.

bear with it. in singapore it is mostly about money. good jobs come with a price.

sgboy2004 SG

mi work as temp oso mah... part time job here and there, if boss show face, mi can fire the boss...hahahha... but ... haiz., got to find more lobang first

Nu^Ren SG

But i will prefer to be more stable in my job & financial wise. Wun like e idea of being broke, again!

ahkico SG

Think is almost e same wherever u go..

Since u feel tat tis job still have some attractions - Gd benefits and pay.. Try stay on bah.. Now job very hard to find le..

It doesn mean tat when u change job.. U would be happier le.. everywhere got back stabbers.. etc.. Give in ur best.. jia you!

Noe tat u very stressful.. Try means to destress bah.. Ren!! People wan to put u down.. U mus show them u can't be put down so easily.. Jia you!!! Wink

dragg SG

are you BShIting again?

you cant work part time here and there forever.

mochou SG

"ride the donkey to look for horse"
stick to current job, while looking for a better one, once u are confident of getting a new better job, quit. Dun quit now without being sure u can get a better job. Or else u end up getting a worse job or cant even get a job at all.

sgboy2004 SG

nobody wanna employ mi full time leh cos mi o level nia Sad

dragg SG

i paid the price of resigning without a job.

but it was really unbearable then.

how i wish i was more realistic then.

Nu^Ren SG

Thanks, felt much better after wad u said. Sigh. But really very xin ku inside. No mood to eat, severe mood swing until tears drop. This can't go on man. Got to find a solution asap. The people in e organisation only cares abt their end result.
Have to cling on to such a job is tedious, mentally. Going to work everyday is as good as going for a war. Anytime not cautious enough... Thats it. U get a stab.

Now i dun intend to leave my job, but what if e organisaion decides to terminate me??? Arrrgh!!! They dun fancy younger female staff... Dunno why..

Nu^Ren SG

Then .. how u survive throughout tis years ???

dragg SG

i am single and live alone with no commitments.

now surviving on my savings.

sgboy2004 SG

Originally posted by Nu^Ren:

Now i dun intend to leave my job, but what if e organisaion decides to terminate me??? [b]Arrrgh!!! They dun fancy younger female staff... Dunno why..[/b]

wah, u young ger ger...mi wan Very Happy

dragg SG

this was exactly how i felt at my last job.

my GM was targeting me. shout and yell, then apologised and said she didnt mean to be rude. said i was in comfort zone for too long. asked if i take my work as a job or career.

when i approached her about my problem with a rude subordinate and requested her action she said 'that is because you did not earn her respect'. and thats it!!!

it was so tiring going to work always on the defensive.

Nu^Ren SG

Now really in a dilemma… to go or not to go.. if dun go they will take me for granted & look me down. If go that means all my efforts down to drain le. Sianz, tomorrow got to wait to big boss reaction, hate this kind of life. Myabe i should just jump down from my flat.. at least can claim insurance(s).

ahkico SG

[quote]Originally posted by Nu^Ren:
Now really in a dilemma... to go or not to go.. if dun go they will take me for granted & look me down. If go that means all my efforts down to drain le. Sianz, tomorrow got to wait to big boss reaction, hate this kind of life. Myabe i should just jump down from my flat.. at least can claim insurance(s).[/quot Mad e]

Now really in a dilemma... to go or not to go.. if dun go they will take me for granted & look me down. If go that means all my efforts down to drain le. Sianz, tomorrow got to wait to big boss reaction, hate this kind of life. Myabe i should just jump down from my flat.. at least can claim insurance(s).

I also got somethin lik tat b4.. Not as jia lat as u..

bUt can understand wat u goin thru..

Everydae.. Cannot stand to go to work.. At nite can't slp no matter how tired i am.. Manage to catch a nap in evenin.. Be dreamin bt my work.. sTress till bey tong..

Heart reali sink every mornin.. Is it mornin.. Sign.. Mus go work le..

Juz go!!

sOmetimes.. It reali depends on how we tak things.. When u can see things in a different perspective.. U feel beta.. Think thru it.. Think it in another way tat it can makes u feel beta..

Say.. Hmm.. Ha.. I reali dunno.. Jus see things lik..Say.. some1 scold u.. And u got angry.. Then.. U think.. Hmm.. He scold mi coz he wans mi to be beta.. To upgrade or improve.. Okie.. I wil show to him tat i can.. He can't bully mi..

Some people likes to 'bully' others.. coz they themselves so very stress up.. Ha.. Lik to give nicks to tis people.. Old hag.. Or confirm quarrel wit hubby.. Or @ home surely kena bullied by wife.. etc..

Tis is childish.. But can try.. Think of how u can bully them.. Give nicknames..

Dun give up and waste all ur efforts.. jia you!

dragg SG

suicide not eligible for insurance claim.

Boyish84 SG

I think Nu^Ren can start searching for a new job,just in case anything goes wrong and the big boss decides to fire u. If ur family is real need of money,just hang on. If still stable just quit if u find a new job,although benefits and pay may be less. The most important thing is to find a happy working environment!