Just wanna shout it out loud!!!

Percussion_guy86 SG

Weve been together for 1yr,4mths and 3days.She`s from China and study in TP microelectronics(i`m SP).After about 6 7 mths,i decided to stay with her outside.Of course,my parents,shld say my mum totally opposed.My dad was very supportive as in i am big enough to be responsible for my own action(i`m 18 she`s 19).

So we happily moved in together.In the beginning,its always beautiful.Like many couples,we quarrelled,and patched.Then the process will repeat itself.I will always be the one to give in.Sometimes,her words can really stab your heart so hard that...that a big guy like me will cry in the middle of the night when she`s not looking.But,she`s like that,her...character...of course after so long,i can tell if she loves me or not...she does. Smile

Things began to...turn sour?
For the past few days,we never talk.i was thinking...its over sooner or later....you can feel it.The tension is getting tighter and tighter...tense.They are many probles between us.The bniggest one is my family.

i often have to fork out money for my family.my brother is working very hard but he`s also staying with his stead.My sis is still very young and my mum is unable to work because of illness.Only left my dad.He`s not getting paid much and he`s reaching 65.Still cooking in a restaurant.The problem is my stead feels that i`m helping TOO MUCH.Sometimes she`s right...when my family needs mony,i can give to them and help,but when we need help,they cant help us.Because of this,i had rejected my family for many times...

The stress is building and building...my eyes is watery now as i type...because of this i often bury myself in music.i love playing drums...percussion freak in bugis...it really de-stress me(going later)...i have been thinking of breaking up with her but i jus cant let it go!!!i really love her...its been so long...many happy times.........i cant bear the feeling of leaving her and not seeing and holding her again...nut i know for the long term...its not gonna work out....f!ck...crying in com lab in school...

i never told my friends this...so i`m the bad guys in their eyes..."dumping your GF..."...its hard to let them know...we`re still staying together.but,i guess i`m gonna move out this few days...somemore exam coming...how to study?...hai...

WAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Neutrend SG

Be a man… dump her really… a relationship should have happy and say. share sorrow and joy together. you said you always give in? which i dun tink it will always be your wrong. if such relation does not benefits you and it still presurized you, let it go… you have did you best

aCid_rAIn SG

so if u love her why still wanna break?
there's really too much problem and u shouldnt jump to a conclusion that breaking up will solve ur poblems straight away; it'll just make the matter worse.
communicate and talk with her, open up. cooping it all inside you wont solve the problem either. good luck and hope u'll find ur solution soon Wink

Percussion_guy86 SG

its hard dude!gees…i would have done it long ago if i can….man…

Percussion_guy86 SG

its not that.You have to think...can you stay like that forever?ask yourself...

(i`m quite contridicting here...)

aCid_rAIn SG

haha yeah but u loved her a lot right? and u should ask urself that: can you be with her forever. chances are u wont know cos u r still so young. but would u want to try to make it work out? this isnt decided only by urself, u have to ask her man. communicate.
i had a similar situation like urs in terms of relationship and sadly it didnt work out and it's because we didnt discuss and talk about all this cos it's a long distance relationship. and i do love her a lot til today.
dun make all the decisions by urself; it hurts the other party.

stellazio SG

well thats the problem with relationship.you never know which one will last and which one wouldn’t.but i would say leave the girl though,i really can’t see anything constructive coming from the relationship.go back to your family for they will be the ones who will never leave you.

SoonKeong SG

What are you trying to say??

Your family always ask money from you that stress you up??

Your gf say u are a family boy, so you are stress up??

Please be more specific in your stressness. Confused

Devil1976 SG

Study 1st, make your decision later... Maybe you would like to move back to your house for a while just to take a short break from things...?

agk_titan SG

dump the girl...concerntrate on family and career...and then better girls will come and you would have better managed times to attend to them Cool

browniebaobao SG

u are only 18 and still studying. Moving out together? It seems easy but in actual fact, it's not. I'm sure u have experienced it for yourself. Money is a BIG issue.

Ur mum is ill and ur dad dun earn much. As part of the family, it's only right for you to support your family. It seems that your gf is not understanding enough. You are only together, not married, and she oppose to you forking out money for your family. It seems to me that she has high Ego. break up or not is up to u. Family and her, which one will u choose? It will be best if u can have both. But what if u can't? You have to come to a decision.

18, 19 is still too young and not mature enough to settle down. There are too many things to think about. I would advise u to concentrate on ur studies first. Dun let a girl ruin ur future.

Magnus SG

What's your choice now?

Are u gonna forsake your family and go with the girl?
Who's left to take care of your family?

With regards to your own family, no matter what, there's ties thst can never be broken.

And with the girl? If it doesn't turn out right, she can just disappear, just like that. What's left for you? While the damage already done?

Percussion_guy86 SG

You guys are right...i need to move on...maybe time will heal...lesson learned... Sad

Yunhaier SG

Why move out?

This is question number one.

You do NOT even have a completely WRECKED domestic environment where you are forced by circumstances to escape the hellhole. Your family faces financial difficulty, but that doesn't equate to a wrecked home. Many household are going through what your family is going through - your rebellious strike out is a choice that promise final despair, stress and dead end. Very loving to stay together in co-habitation? You soon realise that your level of love cannot cope with the pressing problems thrown at you constantly like whirling blades in air.

Logically speaking, you do not even have the finanicial ability to even maintain life, family and relationship all at a go. Furthermore, you are still studying - even if you push for part time, your income will barely be sufficient.

Moving out in your case is not a sign of maturity (or trying to be independent as you may thought of yourself), rather a form of escape to somewhere which you thought love could substitute whatsoever element that is missing in your home. You tried to build a 'home' of warmth in this new 'home' - so pray tell me how does this security of your new haven work to keep itself stable? You can't... & you finally see the cracks and flaws of your young love-cohabitation idealogy, crumbles like a house of cards in face of cruel reality.

Standing at the crossroad, the future of your love looks bleak. Having to break up with your girlfriend is probably the same as having to admit all the willful decisions you made is a huge mistake afterall. Who would want to go through ALL THE MILES and end up coming back to square one? Question

You can continue your current way of life, although its probably not doing you any good... for if it does, you would never had to come here in the first place. How now brown cow? Do you still want to carry on false hope, impractical love and motes of delusion? Or would you chose to humble yourself, acknowledge your plight and work towards ending it, even if it means having to sacrifice?

P.S: You have been living in short-term vision; learn to equip with some foresight with wisdom. It can save you alot of tears and hurt in the long run. Make sensible decisions for your life NOT because it seemed great-at-the-moment - but exercise them with enlightenment. Idea

Cheers

mahai102 SG

you want to dump her for...........

a money sucking, materialistic, b.itchy, f.ucked up singapore girl?

hahahahahaha!!!

get some real love from a prc...

as the nike ad says...don't do it...

Cool Cool Cool

FORGET-ME-NOT SG

Luckily, I am not your parent. Your parent have spend so much money and effort to grow you up. Now they need money not because of gamble. You should help them. Ask yourself, what has your girlfriend done for you? She has no right to ask you not to help. If you and your parent position turn around, what will you think of such child. Money that spend on ‘want’ and ‘need’ are different. ‘Want’ can be avoid. There will be more other trouble you have to face when you grow older. To me a partner is a companion, one who can go through thick and thin with me, share my joy and sorrow. Life got lots of up and down, is impossible to be happy forever. If she is there who is prepared to share your happiness and not sorrow. Then you better give a second thought about your relationship with her. You can change many girlfriends in life but you can’t change your parent. In other words blood is thicker than water. Tell her you need to help, if she love you she should respect your view. Meanwhile, concentrate on your study, with good qualifation you can earn more money and solved your current problem. Good Luck.