Originally posted by heavenlyfire:
so friend, you decided to give her up?
in all case, i don think it will be possible to give up without
hurting her at all. you can only reduce the hurt. there are
hundreds and one way. i will tell you what i can think off. ppl
will comment and you decide.
[b]1) you secretly withdraw....not picking up her calls and not
replying to your message. or you can even change your no. ( i would
choose this, as this girl is so crazy about me, one way to stop her
from harassing you and stalking you)
2) you confront her telling her you feel piss off, never expected
her to be so cheap on what she done at the cinema and told her
harshly that don borther you anymore.
maybe she will tell you that her friends advise her to do such
things, then you told her off that she is 26, yet unable to think.
just be pissed off and digusted and don be soft hearted to give in
to her aplogies. then it will be most likely that she will try
again after few days, she will not give up. the best way is change
your number without telling her. ya, tell her to find other guys
who like such things.
3)turn into a complete jerk and let her hate you, do the things she
don like.(less hurt as it will be easier to forget some1 whom you
hate)
4) always talk about a particular girl whom you like recently, tell
her that you also like the 3rd party, ask her for advise, just make
her give up. maybe she will not be convinced. then you will have to
find a friend to help you act.(hurt the most)
5) be truthful to her. (but the truth always hurt the most). she
may take sometime to forget you. be firm with your stand. no more 1
to 1 date as it will give her the wrong idea.
bear in mind she may have her own team of advisers just like you
have us, but if you choose option 1. her team would have no chance
and no way to help or advise, unless she know where you stay and
crazy until come and look for you.
if you don want to loose her as a friend, maybe let things calm
down a bit(choose option 1), contact her only until she found a new
target or the inflaution is not that strong, usually take 6 months
or more.
these are the waysi can think off, hiaz...how to don hurt her.
either love or hate and these 2 are usually marginally apart.
Pls comment and advise. [/b]
I tried some of the ways you mentioned above but i cannot bring
myself to do no 2. I will definately be soft hearted and give in to
her when she cry. She doesn't know where I stay at which block only
know i stay in east area. I did no 3 too i did things like scolding
all kinds of vulgar at her, ignore her and told her i went disco
look for girls. but she still won't give up.
