okz my hubby committed adultery and his other woman is now
pregnant and pressuring him to divorce me. we were married for 11
yrs.
i muz say i hv been a gd mother and wife all these years and did
nothing unforgiveable. his only grouse was that i am a housewife
and cannot share his financial burden.
i know it is both of our fault that our marriage breaks down. i had
given him the chance, and told him that if he is able to give up
this woman, we can always start anew.
he tried to use delay tactic and said he needed time to consider
(makes it sound like i'm begging him for a chance!duh!) and
meanwhile living with the woman in a rented flat, paid for by the
woman. so a month has passed and he said he is sticking to THEIR
original decision.
so now.. i need advice.
- he is 32 and i am 31. he is not rich and earning about
$2000/mth.
- i stick to him when he was bankrupt from 98 to 2001. and he was
earning $800/mth and my parents paid for our utilities.
- he does not want my kids' custody. i do not intend to give him
any.
- he is a wife-beater and i have ever made a police report at
Alex.Hosp.
- he shows NO sign of guilt or remorse. in fact, he still feels he
is doing the right thing 'living for himself' to quote him.
- the flat is the 2nd we bought. the first with both our CPF. this
current one from his CPF alone. he wants to divorce so that i have
to pay him his share of the flat. my kids and i definitely needs a
roof over our heads.
Qn. how does this law work here?
my main qn. is, will a divorce benefits me and my kids?
i do not want to be so mercenery and end this relationship at a bad
note. but, i am not financially independent yet and is now trying
to. i have to protect my kids' interests and get a good bit of
alimony outta him in the case of divorce. or maintenance in the
case of no divorce.
thanks in advance for your advices.
