Is there a need to be fierce/rude?

Burgerking SG

Is there a need to be fierce or rude to some1 that likes you but you don't like him/her?

Even though she/he does nothing that irrirate you. As soon as you found out the other party has special feelings for you.Your attidue towards him/she changes immediately. No matter what it is,you respond with an bad attidue toward the other party.

Vice versa. Could be you like some1 and that some1 immediately changes his/her attidue towards you.

Note: The in love party did not do anything that causes irriration.

browniebaobao SG

Even if u dun like him/her, u dun have to hurt him/her. Esp when he/she meant no harm.

hisoka SG

that person is being nice to the person who like him/her. it is telling the party sorry i am not interested and trying to prevent misunderstanding. you must understand that its doing it in your best interest in heart.

Burgerking SG

I belive there a better way of making it clear that you do not have special feelings for him/her without hurting the other party.You can tell them in a nice manner yet direct that you only treat the other party as a friend and it's not possible to extend the relationship any further.

If you choose to be rude or treat them badly just to make them give up hope then you might lose a friend or even made an enemy.

hisoka SG

even after you tell the person you still have to be careful not to lead the person on which might lead to the rude behaviour cos that person doesn't want to be nice to the other party.

anyway its also pretty embarassing and awkward to go and tell the person to "fark off" right? in fact if you actually come out and say it it might also put a dent in your friendship while if you cold-shoulder the other party and that party backs off you can still continue as if nothign happened and still be friends which might not be possible if you had confronted the other party

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change fromer to former also lag.....

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alexkusu SG

are u on the receiving end of the rude stick?

shaunlaw SG

No. There is absolutely no need to be fierce/rude. That person has done nth to u or nth to irritate u at all.

I have encountered such situation b4 though not in total sense. That person got frens in the same grp as we are in to kick me out of the grp.

Quinsy SG

Maybe he/she just has no idea how to react to the sudden extra attention.
It happens. Give him/her time to cool down.

shaunlaw SG

Possible ba but i think for my case is she dun like means she dun like, dun even wan to give that chance and even assume things I do are all irritating things when in fact they are all not.

Yunhaier SG

Some people don't know how to react to such situations. Had a friend who literally pissed off his-attracted-to-him-crush with lewd comments and he did it just to shake her off.

Years later? Regret. Idea

Cheers

starblue SG

i’d avoid the person totally. which doesn’t do anything good for the friendship, but i guess i dunno how to handle it other wise also…

dragg SG

do not give unto others what you do not want others to give unto you.

Devil1976 SG

No no... Often there's no such a need... Mr. Green

But like Yun has mentioned, sometimes they just don't know how to react to it...

People's reaction to such request can really be quite subjective... Then again, sometimes when you think that you have not done anything to irritate them, you also can't be too sure? Something which might seems 'nothing' to you might really be 'something' to some people? Mr. Green

Ito_^ SG

No, it just show of shallow people can get.