Being touched means anything?

shaunlaw SG

Hi everyone. Just encounter this lately. Had a fren (Girl) who just gotten back to know her long lost pri sch fren (Guy). This guy wrote a poem for her and the girl told me she was touched. However, that doesnt mean anything to her other than being touched.

What are ur thinkings or feelings if u are being touched? Will u give that person a chance to love u or chase u? Does being touched mean anything to u?

starblue SG

touched by a poem doesn’t necessarily mean anything.. is it a love poem?? did the guy explicitly tll the gal the love poem is written FOR her?? if yes, and she says she’s touched, then maybe there’s something.. if not, she’s just giving her feelings on the poem…

iwillsurvive SG

touched…..hmmmmmm i don’t think it means anything ba..

Devil1976 SG

It can mean alot of things...?

choco B SG

Eh, it could mean nothing except that she appreciates what he's done lah. Sorry!

gerrykoh SG

One poem won't influence or move the girl into accepting him.
She might be impressed by his creativity.

Misogynist SG

Imagine this.. After she says the poem touches her.. tell her the poem is not for her.. See her reaction.. muHahhaha

shaunlaw SG

The poem did spell clearly that the guy love her. Each of the letter of the beginning of the poem spells her name and also the words I LOVE YOU. It isntly likely for someone to put this up to show ppl when they have no feelings for the person.

MY fren told me she was touched but to her it doesnt mean anyhting else. She also said it was sweet.

I was just wondering how guys and girls see this touched thing differently. If someone wana chase u, he will have to do sth to touch u or woo u over. In that case, feeling touched means giving a chance and accepting?? Strange of my fren to contradict this thinking.

Ito_^ SG

at first i tot he meant being molested. Laughing

Magnus SG

Being touched with words/poem is a good start.
Action should come next. Only then, sincerity will come full circle.

sgboy2004 SG

chey, no touch...as in physical touch Sad

shaunlaw SG

Aiyo. How can u all think like that? This decent topic leh. Confused

Star_dust SG

From experience....being touched does not mean anything usually.... Juz note that being touched =/= having feelings for you... two totally different things altogether.

Let's explore the female mind a bit n what consists of "being touched"... whenever a guy (any guy) did sumthing for her... they know that they MATTER to somebody... It is this... that makes them feel touched....

Other aspect of being touched is the action, the things that the guy is willing to go through, for the ger.... but then again, it is cuz the ger MATTER to the guy, tat's y the guy went thru such things.

So... when a ger says she is touched, it is a way of saying thank you to the guy's SINCERiTY, for doing the things for her, and making her feel important... IT IS NOT NECESSARY TRUE THAT BEING TOUCHED = HAVING FEELINGS FOR YOU.

Why so? Cuz sad to say, sincerity counts not as much in courtship.... Have you ever heard of most gers say, "I want a bf who is v sincere in woo-ing me n making me feel touched all the time"? Prolly not... Cuz most gers have a set of criteria for a guy they want to be with, other than feelings.... That's why...

Gackt247 SG

Shouldnt have any other significance other den an appreciation of the poem. Unless of course the girl already harbours feelings for the guy.

shaunlaw SG

This seem to make things sound like that person is heartless in some way. I duno abt other guys but personally, if i were to do sth for a girl i like, and then she tellsme she feels touched, I will take it i have a chance.

I would rather hear her say tell me str that I dun hace to do things for her cos it wont touch her. I know love is sometimes cruel but I rather hear the cruel words than hear those nice words to give hope then the cruel words to bring u down to knees.

Of cos I understand that the girl is trying to be nice to minimize the pain but I rather prefer a straight answer of a no. To me, minimizing wonuld not help cos it will only add on to the misery.

Just my tots though, doesnt apply to all guys.

Ito_^ SG

sorree la. spent too much time in the bar liao.

see see. croco oso wad. Laughing

choco B SG

It's heartless cos you're hurt by it.

The word "touched" doesn't infer a liking or a chance. It simply means "emotionally stirred". You can't blame a girl if you add extra meaning to the phrase yourself because you're hoping it means more.

I can be touched by what my good friend of the same gender does for me. Does it mean I should be falling for her?

I think it's safer for you to ask clear, explicit questions to someone you like, so that you won't read too much into what she says nor misunderstand her.

Star_dust SG

No la, dun necessarily means cruel... cruel means u do sumthing for the ger the ger juz heck u n treat u bad! The girl is juz being nice by saying she's touched.... The point I want to stress is that being touched =/= have feelings, got chance.... there are many more reliable cues and factors.... juz observe them more... cuz experience tells me tat being touched dun really mean got chance...

mercurialz SG

i m touched when pple offer help when i m in distress, when pple act considerately, etc... simply said, being "touched" and "in love" are totally different... hope ur fren isnt too confused.. Very Happy

topgel SG

Being touched by someone doesn’t neccesarily mean liking a person. If someone is sweet and nice to you, and u dun feel touched then it also says alot about you as a person. It’s natural to be touched by nice gestures. But when someone is touched by another, it usually means that that someone has a pretty good impression of the one who has touched him or her.