Need help with reputation points at schoool

drogba SG

Back when I was in secondary two, I did a lot of stuff and gave myself a very very bad reputation among girls

I did all those things for fun, just to irritate the girls, but recently I had a crush on one of them, who hated me right to the core for what I did :

1) After science lesson, I went to the whitboard and drew a picture of a naked woman.

Breast, vagina, nipple all included in a 3-1 package that sent my reputation beyond negative numbers

2) I put my MSN nickname as : I like to play with girls' body. Immediately after that, all of them just blocked me.

3) During literature lesson,

The teacher said to the class "Open your literature book unless you have bionic eyes and can see through books"

I replied "I have bionic eyes to see through women's bra."

4) I gained the reputation as "The Masturbator".

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I knew what I did was plain stupid, but I didn't know that the people i pissed of contained someone i truly like.

Since December 2004, i already stopped it and now, I want to make ammends.

Here are some things I can do

1) Say sorry to her (Most likely ignored)

2) Say "I luv u" (I dont need a slap)

3) Wait (I have one year left)

What should I do?

Need some advice

Oyster Omelette SG

waahh, that is kind of difficult since I sort of pengz at what you've did Confused But it's ok, you've repented and matured (I hope so) , the next step is to work on your talent(s), what are you good at? let your clean/true talent overpower your previous misdeeds, for example, you can work on your studies or sports, let everyone know how much you have change instead of saying out those words, "ahh, I'lll change, I'll change", talk is cheap sometimes.

Kenneth Tan Jian Wei SG

First off, stop supporting Chelsea FC. Laughing

Seriously, what you did was abso-fugging-lutely retarded. Hardly any point in "seeking redemption". Wait a couple more years, graduate from the school, then start afresh at another institute.

That is, if you actually manage to grow up and wake up your ideas.

Good luck!

Embarassed

Imperfect SG

Remember this... "You can have millions of accomplishments, but one single mistake can make people remember you for life in the negative way."

All you need to do is to stop behaving like in the past. Be patient, and people will eventually see that you have changed for the better. Its very easy to be noticed that u have changed, esp when people spot opportunities for you to dish out all your atrocities, but you didn't. For once, people may think that you simply missed your chance in doing that. For multiple times, people may think that you are starting to change. With behavior that is more acceptable by others, people will also start to see you in a different light. Its difficult to change others perception on you. Even though you dearly wanted tht to happen, but you have no rights to that. Its up to others to decide. So jus be what you think you want to be. Forget about going on better terms or getting the gal as your gf for the time being. Let her notice your change naturally.

Good luck.

ilovemyrolex SG

makes perfect sense! also ask your friends to do a poll as to where your schoolmates are heading after graduation. choose the least popular one... at least your reputation will be remembered by less people.

have a good life... if you can get it! Wink

sneezy SG

what had happened already passed.. if you reali like that girl then try to explain to her and it all up to her whether she wan to accept what you explain. Gd luck ..if you are too shy to tok to her face to face, why dont try to write everythings on a letter and try to pass to her personally or through friends. But frankly speaking, what you did was damn childish Razz

coffeeortea SG

hmm.. best way is to seriously change.. and try to show people that you are not the way you used to be.. dont try to make it too obvious though as it might seem too motive oriented

chong-ster SG

i remembered hating my literature teacher so much, once when she was in the toilet i took my ruler and made chalk dust out of the chalk and pour them all into her cup of coffee.

what you did is excusable... ppl always talk about how fun their sec sch days were, and urs is only fun *10000 times of mine Razz

maybe u can start by admitting u were childish back then (it doesnt hurt losing a little pride to gain more friends)

you dont have to make some drastic changes to urself.. as long as u stop doing/saying those stuffs that u did before, i think they'll be able to see the change in you...

shade343 SG

You shldnt have insulted the modesty of the girls in your class. Laughing

How come they call you "The Masturbator"? I thought the word "pervert" would suit you better.

stellazio SG

i dun tink anything u do now will save ur reputation.just carry on with life and start anew when u graduate.cuz even if u died saving an old woman crossing a road,i think people will still remember u as “the masturator”..no point just concentrate on ur studies.

Ito_^ SG

Give up. You're totally farked. Go elsewhere start anew. Laughing

cutepixie SG

i agree lol

R__ SG

Karma at work.

Biscan SG

HAHA,remind me of myself last time.I used to have real bad reputation in school too,but for some reasons,those girls in my class just dosen't seems to hate me,maybe you should let your action do the talking.Do a self-reflection and change to the better,what you did is just ways to grab attention i presume.Grow up junior Cool

Ito_^ SG

ya.. same for me actually, but not that kinda reputation.. Laughing

fudgester SG

Reminds me a bit about my own experience... though I didn't do the things you did.

Simply put, I'm mixed blood, namely Indian and Malay. Somehow I got a psuedo-Brit accent as a result. Unfortunately, this led to most of my Sec 3 class hating me. Extremely shallow, but there you go.

Eventually they woke up they bloody ideas and began accepting me towards the end of Sec 3. Still, it took until the middle of Sec 4 for much of the barriers of suspicion to be broken down.

As for you, to be frank, I totally understand why the girls absolutely refuse to accept you. No way on earth is any girl going to accept your past antics. Most girls, anyway.

The best idea is to just let it be. Let your actions speak the truth that you've indeed changed. Of course, don't just pretend that you've changed - show that you are truly sincere in your willingness to change.

Still, don't expect them to be completely won over overnight - if at all.